Choose To verses Have To

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Choose To verses Have To
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 9:00am

Where is that line? Is there a line? What determines it?

I have been trying to figure out if I am a "choose to" or "have to" sahp. If one only looks at finances, I am definitely a "choose to" sahp. However, IF I had my druthers, I would be a wohp. My family's "unique" circumstances make it easy for our whole family to have a sahp and a wohp. We have weighed the pluses and minuses and sah comes out first- it isn't really close. If it were close, I would be a wohp. So, I feel like a "Have To" sahp.

If we look at the finances, DH is a "Have To" wohp if we have a sahp. However, when we made the decision to have me first work part time and then, later, quit. We talked about *both* of us working reduced hours (30 or so). He did quit a very demanding job at a start up and went to a *relatively less demanding job at a medium sized company. So, weighing his feelings, he is a "Choose To" wohp.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:24pm

So she wasn't investigating areas to live. Sounds interesting anyway :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:25pm
So you have checked out these websites?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:26pm
So you are aware of all the averages of your town and neighborhood.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:28pm
So your word of how your town ranks is above what statistics have been taken?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:37pm

No. I'm saying that unless you take into account cost of living, comparisons of home values to the national average is useless in determining the class of a neighborhood.

Besides, whatever information is available on Spokeo, there's no way to know for sure how they calculate it. And considering how many other things are inaccurate, I have a hard time using it as a definitive source for anything.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:45pm

I wasn't just speaking of that site online. There are many other sites you can see a town's poverty level, income level, etc.


I have compared from town to town around me and it was very accurate on some parts.


I can't see how you could judge that a million dollar house in a certain town would make that town "middle or upper middle class". Again, there are many towns by me that are considered "lower class" that have million dollar homes. Obviously the million dollar homes are a VERY low percentage to the town itself as a whole.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:47pm

The ones you posted? Probably not (although I didn't memorize your list).

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:50pm
Aware of? Yes. All? I don't think I could say that; I don't know the average height of the people in my neighborhood.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:51pm
You SHOULD check them out too. Many of them are quite accurate.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:56pm

Spokeo didn't have an inaccurate value for my home, because it had no value at all! lol


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