Choose To verses Have To

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Choose To verses Have To
444
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 9:00am

Where is that line? Is there a line? What determines it?

I have been trying to figure out if I am a "choose to" or "have to" sahp. If one only looks at finances, I am definitely a "choose to" sahp. However, IF I had my druthers, I would be a wohp. My family's "unique" circumstances make it easy for our whole family to have a sahp and a wohp. We have weighed the pluses and minuses and sah comes out first- it isn't really close. If it were close, I would be a wohp. So, I feel like a "Have To" sahp.

If we look at the finances, DH is a "Have To" wohp if we have a sahp. However, when we made the decision to have me first work part time and then, later, quit. We talked about *both* of us working reduced hours (30 or so). He did quit a very demanding job at a start up and went to a *relatively less demanding job at a medium sized company. So, weighing his feelings, he is a "Choose To" wohp.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:56pm
I think you aren't quite understanding the differences in the demographics where we each live. Where you live, there are lots of little towns that all run into each other with tons of people. Where I live, it's just the one town with lots of countryside around the edges. The town has different neighborhoods and each one has different kinds of houses and property values and income levels and characteristics. Some neighborhoods have houses that start at $500,000, which considering the average home value here is under $200,000 is quite high. Other neighborhoods have houses that are almost all under $150,000. According to the census though, all of the neighborhoods are considered one area.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:57pm
Hmmm...don't think I have seen that anywhere either :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 6:59pm
Why should I?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:05pm

Each town though, gets a "rating" no matter how expensive the homes are. One town might be much larger with a huge range of prices of homes. I don't think the only thing they are considering, when making these "ratings" are just the homes and incomes. I am sure there are other things that go into play.


It

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-01-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:08pm

there's not a huge market for investigating areas to live in the PI world... and neither of us are really all that interested in 'class' this and "class' that anyway... *shrug* don't really see why that would matter to anyone else anyway.

all i was sayin is that she has a bazillion investigative tricks up her sleeve so I guess if I really did want to research an area she'd have great ides how to do it - -she was really really good at her job... and she has some hysterical stories

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:09pm

I would think someone who is so involved in their community and is raising children in that community would want to know where it ranks compared to others and the strength and weaknesses lie.


I am glad that I know what type of town I live in and I will continue researching it and see how we are doing and if it does need help, to find out how that could be done.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:09pm
Each town gets a rating? Where?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-01-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:10pm
I really can not see unless you were really consideringsay a move to a different state why I would care two whits about thiss stuff. I mean. I'm happy here. I like my home I like my community... why shoudl I care what the house 7 streets over is worth...? I"m really not seeing the appeal.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:12pm
All of those websites have percentages and ratings of towns. Did you check them all out and see where yours stands?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:12pm

<

Pages