Choose To verses Have To

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Choose To verses Have To
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Wed, 04-14-2010 - 9:00am

Where is that line? Is there a line? What determines it?

I have been trying to figure out if I am a "choose to" or "have to" sahp. If one only looks at finances, I am definitely a "choose to" sahp. However, IF I had my druthers, I would be a wohp. My family's "unique" circumstances make it easy for our whole family to have a sahp and a wohp. We have weighed the pluses and minuses and sah comes out first- it isn't really close. If it were close, I would be a wohp. So, I feel like a "Have To" sahp.

If we look at the finances, DH is a "Have To" wohp if we have a sahp. However, when we made the decision to have me first work part time and then, later, quit. We talked about *both* of us working reduced hours (30 or so). He did quit a very demanding job at a start up and went to a *relatively less demanding job at a medium sized company. So, weighing his feelings, he is a "Choose To" wohp.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:15pm

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How true. After all, if finding all this info is as easy as SSD says it is (visit a website or two and you everything you need right?), then there would be no market for a PI.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:16pm
Sigh...when comparing it to the other sites I have posted.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:17pm

You're doing better than I am according to Spokeo I don't even exist.

Just found out why. DH had my and his information removed. But I did read it before he did, not very accurate.

Both he and I apparently have college degrees that we did not know about and our house is valued at at +1 million dollars.




Edited 4/14/2010 7:25 pm ET by emptynester2009
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:18pm

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Yes. I agree. I do know those things.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2009
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:19pm

But how do you know the information is accurate?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:22pm
And you have never checked out the data on your town. You are just going by what community leaders tell you. Have they shown you hardcopies of the data on your town, the income levels, the poverty levels, the crime level?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:22pm
Ratings of towns? No, I didn't see that. Can you tell me which ones those were?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:23pm

I have looked for years on these type of sites at my town and they all compare.


Have you ever looked?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:24pm
Again, you can check out all the sites I posted.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 7:27pm
I don't see any ratings though. I do see income levels and crime levels and education levels, but those aren't ratings.

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