A Clean House is a Sign of a Wasted Life?

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A Clean House is a Sign of a Wasted Life?
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Tue, 01-07-2014 - 9:35am

From Time.com, the author takes a look at her life and whether if you put too much time into domestic chores it takes away from your career:

In the early morning stillness, before the house was teeming with other people who needed things from me, I found myself engrossed in an opinion piece by Stephen Marche, “The Case for Filth.” His essay sprang off a study showing that young men today are not doing any more housework than their fathers did 30 years ago.

In the days immediately following its publication, Marche’s essay was hammered. “If there is a God, this guy will spend the afterlife scrubbing toilets and vacuuming,” tweeted feminist author Jessica Valenti, joining a chorus of critics. And she was right. Marche makes a pseudo-intellectual argument for why men don’t do their share of the chores (“Even the most basic housework proves ethereal on inspection”) while demeaning women in the process (“Millions of young women are deeply attracted to the gloomy vice of domestic labor”).

Still, I must confess: When I came to Marche’s penultimate sentence—“A clean house is the sign of a wasted life, truly”—my day was suddenly shot. I found myself sitting there at the kitchen island, rattled, wondering if I was, in fact, truly wasting my life. “Let them eat crust” echoed in my mind.

In this sense, a “clean house” isn’t merely about picking up dirty socks or putting away the dishes. It is about taking on a kind of hidden housework: making a home that is warm and inviting, comfortable and comforting; creating a space where my children’s friends like to hang out and we as a family feel ensconced; and knowing, as Marche himself puts it, “who likes what on their sandwiches.”

But doing all of this takes time, lots of time. And, though my husband does his share, often there aren’t enough hours in the day to manage my home and family as well as I’d like and to be a writer, too.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2014/01/06/making-sense-of-mess-finding-meaning-in-household-chores/

The only way I survived when I was working full time after my twins were born was that I was able to keep using the woman who would come clean my house every week while I was on bedrest.   It's very hard to do it all, and something will suffer at some point, whether it being your own sanity or time with your family.  

What do you think?  Do you have a messy or a clean house?

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Tue, 01-07-2014 - 9:47am
I haven't read the article yet, but my gut reaction is that i hate whenever real "homemaking" is demeaned. Nothing you do out of love for your family is "wasted." Creating beauty and order in everyday life is not wasting your life; it's living your life. Personally, my house is hardly ever as clean and orderly as I'd like, but it's "clean enough" and "orderly enough."
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Tue, 01-07-2014 - 9:48am

Sorry, double post.

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I find that saying ridiculous. I have a life AND a clean home. I also don't have a large home so I am able to keep up, for the most part with 3 other people living in it who are not as anal as myself with some things. I feel everything has a "home" and they should be returned to it's "home" so you can find it again. 

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Tue, 01-07-2014 - 1:38pm
A clean house is OK if the maid does it ;) I do remember one friend said she decided she needed to go back to work when she called her DH at work to brag to him about how wonderfully shiny she had managed to get the kitchen floor. There has to be balance.
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Tue, 01-07-2014 - 4:09pm

I think there is a big range between a filthy house and a spotless house.   My house is usually always clean but rarely spotless. 

It is a lot easier keeping a clean house as an empty nester then it was with three young childrren. 

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Tue, 01-07-2014 - 7:13pm
What Bord said.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Wed, 01-08-2014 - 9:50am
I consider my house a pretty clean one but it doesn't clean itself, Lol. I am always picking up or sweeping up, I like containers and baskets to throw things in that don't have a place otherwise too. I never thought of that as a wasted life so I don't get the connection there, Keeping a house up doesn't take a lot of time.

 


 


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Wed, 01-08-2014 - 11:09am
I envy those of you who can keep up your house ion "not a lot of time." Between cooking, laundry, and cleaning, I know I spend three hours a day on domestic stuff, and at least six hours on one weekend day.
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Wed, 01-08-2014 - 11:16am

I do things on a regular basis and not just pick one or two days to do them. That is why I find it not a lot of time. I do laundry every other day. This morning I threw in a load, will put it in the dryer at lunch and then fold and put away after work. I am always cleaning something. My dh cooks during the week most of the time and then I will do the weekends. 

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Wed, 01-08-2014 - 12:15pm

Mine is somewhere between clean and messy, a comfortable lived in family home.  I don't have an issue with those who choose to keep their houses clean at all times, that is just not my style.  Honestly, I don't have that kind of time nor would I want to spend more of my free time keeping a clean house at all times. 

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