A Clean House is a Sign of a Wasted Life?

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A Clean House is a Sign of a Wasted Life?
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Tue, 01-07-2014 - 9:35am

From Time.com, the author takes a look at her life and whether if you put too much time into domestic chores it takes away from your career:

In the early morning stillness, before the house was teeming with other people who needed things from me, I found myself engrossed in an opinion piece by Stephen Marche, “The Case for Filth.” His essay sprang off a study showing that young men today are not doing any more housework than their fathers did 30 years ago.

In the days immediately following its publication, Marche’s essay was hammered. “If there is a God, this guy will spend the afterlife scrubbing toilets and vacuuming,” tweeted feminist author Jessica Valenti, joining a chorus of critics. And she was right. Marche makes a pseudo-intellectual argument for why men don’t do their share of the chores (“Even the most basic housework proves ethereal on inspection”) while demeaning women in the process (“Millions of young women are deeply attracted to the gloomy vice of domestic labor”).

Still, I must confess: When I came to Marche’s penultimate sentence—“A clean house is the sign of a wasted life, truly”—my day was suddenly shot. I found myself sitting there at the kitchen island, rattled, wondering if I was, in fact, truly wasting my life. “Let them eat crust” echoed in my mind.

In this sense, a “clean house” isn’t merely about picking up dirty socks or putting away the dishes. It is about taking on a kind of hidden housework: making a home that is warm and inviting, comfortable and comforting; creating a space where my children’s friends like to hang out and we as a family feel ensconced; and knowing, as Marche himself puts it, “who likes what on their sandwiches.”

But doing all of this takes time, lots of time. And, though my husband does his share, often there aren’t enough hours in the day to manage my home and family as well as I’d like and to be a writer, too.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2014/01/06/making-sense-of-mess-finding-meaning-in-household-chores/

The only way I survived when I was working full time after my twins were born was that I was able to keep using the woman who would come clean my house every week while I was on bedrest.   It's very hard to do it all, and something will suffer at some point, whether it being your own sanity or time with your family.  

What do you think?  Do you have a messy or a clean house?

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Thu, 01-09-2014 - 5:19am
An hour folding and putting away laundry sounds like a lot of time, Aside from the 50 minutes most of my stuff takes to dry I don't spend that much time doing laundry and there are more people in my house. Do you save laundry for only certain days of the week bord?

 

 

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Thu, 01-09-2014 - 5:28am
Seriously, dog hair is the worst. Mine has his favorite resting spot and that afghan gets cleaned all the time, all of his hair ends up in the dryer vent and it's gross.

 

 

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Thu, 01-09-2014 - 7:10am
There are seven people using our washer/dryer. I personally do laundry whenever I have a full load, usually about four loads a week. It takes me about twenty minutes to fold and put away a load of laundry unless there is ironing involved.
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That closet is A LOT bigger than mine, you can actually walk into it. lol. I will have to take a picture of mine to show you how small it is. 

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There are seven people using our washer/dryer. I personally do laundry whenever I have a full load, usually about four loads a week. It takes me about twenty minutes to fold and put away a load of laundry unless there is ironing involved.

Why do you have 7 people using your washer/dryer? There are no laundromats in your area?

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Thu, 01-09-2014 - 9:54am
I allow low income people to use my laundry facilities because I believe in helping out the working poor. Laundromats are expensive.
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I allow low income people to use my laundry facilities because I believe in helping out the working poor. Laundromats are expensive.

Oh ok. I don't know how much they cost. The last time I really used one for a lot of things was about 20 years ago and it was about $2/week.

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Thu, 01-09-2014 - 10:24am
When my son was at college in North Carolina, he could swipe his student card at the washer and dryer; he did about two loads a week and it cost us around $40 a month not including soap.
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Thu, 01-09-2014 - 10:38am

When my son was at college in North Carolina, he could swipe his student card at the washer and dryer; he did about two loads a week and it cost us around $40 a month not including soap.

Wow, ok, so it went up a lot lol

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Thu, 01-09-2014 - 10:49am

When I wash the cat beds (I rotate them all, so about 1/3 of all the beds/pads get washed every week), any bed that is too coated I brush down with a pet brush (like this) first before washing.

The lint screen is still plenty coated at the end, but it cuts way down on the volume of hair.

Also having a huge supply of beds and pads and rotating them/washing them every 3 weeks really makes a big difference and keeps the accumulated hair down.  I just do the pet bed load last on Laundry Day and then wipe out the washer after wards. 

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