College

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Sat, 10-29-2011 - 9:01am

Will/are you encouraging your child(ren) into practical or academic pursuits in college?

Do you think your working status has made an impact on your decision?

I am 37 years old and in my first year in college and I am still feeling out my major. At a recent dinner party, I was introduced to a student that attends the same community college that I do. When I told her that I was considering transferring to the state university to pursue a degree in sociology, she nearly spit her drink out of her nose in laughter and told me that it would be completely worthless. She's getting an associate's degree in social work and already knows the wage and benefit package to work as an eligibility specialist at the Department of Human Services. She's going to make $18 an hour and have $7 copays on her comprehensive medical plan.

Aside from her bluntless, I keep having this same conversation with other students no matter their age; they are highly specific in their college plans and know how much they'll make when they finish, and it blows their mind that I really don't a plan. I understand that student debt is an issue, which is exactly why I am going to a community college to knock out the basics and a handful of core credits. I am scheduled for an academic advising appointment next week and I wonder if each degree comes with a sheet selling each student on return of investment for their time and student loan dollars? This attitude is so persistant that I'm considering making an application for the dental hygiene program instead (which I have an interest in), and only return to school once I am settled in a lucrative and flexible position to study what I want.

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Sun, 10-30-2011 - 12:00pm

It would take a huge amount of discipline to pursue dance that intensely. She must be an amazing kid!

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Sun, 10-30-2011 - 11:54am

We are also encouraging our children to stay home and attend community college and then transfer. One prestigious state university near us has highly competitive first-year admission, but the transfer programs seem to allow more leeway.

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Sun, 10-30-2011 - 11:50am

I don't think of college as job training. I hope my children have interests that turn into lucrative careers, but I don't expect them to be finished products, safely ensconced in their career, at 22.

There's a lot of pressure on kids to have it all figured out without the luxury of adult life experience. I

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Sun, 10-30-2011 - 11:48am

Aw, emptynester, I am glad there was a highpoint to your day. I'm sure that's the way the girls' grandmother would have preferred it.

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Sun, 10-30-2011 - 10:44am
Yes. Most of my circle of friends are in careers they just "fell into", that started as jobs and became careers. In fact, many of them - like me - are in careers they never even knew existed when they were finishing college.

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Sun, 10-30-2011 - 10:41am
The Boy - at 11 - says he's gonna be a sniper.

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Sun, 10-30-2011 - 10:41am
As long as my kids pursue something that will enable them to live independent, decent lives, then I'm okay with it. If that's no college, but training in a blue collar field (construction, plumber, whatever), that's okay. If that's attending a technical school for autobody work, that's okay. If it's attending culinary or another specialty school, that's okay. If it's a college degree in art, that's okay. If it's a graduate degree in education, that's okay.

Really, as long as they don't expect to live with me or have me support them, then they should do whatever makes them happy.


FTR, right now The Girl is looking at attending the University of Arkansas to study either forensics or criminal justice. Until recently, she'd been looking to go to vet school. She's got about 2 years to make her college decision, so it may very well change, but she's thinking about it heavily already.

But, she has no thoughts towards exact jobs or salaries, etc.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Sat, 10-29-2011 - 6:39pm
Epic parenting fail. Her parents are seriously misinformed. You do have to be fit to make it into the police academy, but speed is not a requirement. Unless she has a disabiIity, the running requirements are actually pretty easy to achieve.

My oldest son has looked into it as a possible career path, he is short and may not make the height requirement to be a state cop. As a 14yo non-runner, he could pass all the fitness requirements for entrance to the academy with ease.
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Sat, 10-29-2011 - 5:14pm

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I completely agree.





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Sat, 10-29-2011 - 5:02pm
egd3blessed wrote:
i agree that there's a slim chance that at 22 you find your career for life. i think 30s and even 40s is the time some reach true goals, and having kids can delay that even more.

my dad used to say you're never a finished product and that you should never stop learning.

I agree with your dad.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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