common for 2 WOHPs to have househelp?

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common for 2 WOHPs to have househelp?
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Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:27am
I have no idea if this has come up before (probably, I don't imagine there are many truly new discussions :-)), but the topic came to me as I am slogging away trying to clean our waaaay too large house. I never seem to keep up with the housework as well as I would like these days. It is not so bad at the moment since I am on vacation, but when we are both working it feels like such an enormous struggle to keep up with the mess, especially in summer when stuff is constantly tracked in from the garden. I noticed that a lot of people on the board mention maids, housekeepers, cleaning services etc. So are we weird for being 2 WOHPs with no extra househelp? I know that it was a LOT easier to keep up with the stuff when I was SAH, and it seems like half our saturdays are taken up with house stuff these days.


Laura

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:45am
I can't imagine woh F/T and maybe even considerably p/t if you have a large house without help. I used to have a housekeeper when I was consulting 2 days a week, but I was making so much more $$$ so I could pay her and boy did I love it, it made a huge difference.

I let her go when I lost the consulting job and started subbing, but to be honest, my house was never completely clean all at one time the entire year. I've gotten it under control now that I'm home this summer, but I think I'll be hiring someone again in the fall. Who wants to spend the entire weekends and evenings playing catch-up?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:50am
I think it varies widely. But I had a cleaning service every other week when I was single and my house was a three bedroom, 3 bath townhouse! I agree with Ms. slimshady - your free time is so precious, who wants to spend it cleaning?

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:01am
You are not alone.

We are a 2 income HH and do all the cleaning, laundry, yardwork ourselves. Our house is 3600 sq ft & our income comfortably into 6-figures, yet we can't bring ourselves to hire help. It seems so lavish & I'm too cheap, but on the other hand, it's stupid for us to spend as much time & effort as we do and still never be caught up!

It's the laundry...why oh why oh why is it never all done? How can we possibly have load after load after load & why does it take so long? Sigh! Is it us? Do we lack the laundry gene that enables people to keep up with it?

We joke that that's why we had kids--to have help mowing the lawn, cleaning the bathrooms, etc. It just hasn't worked out that way yet! =^)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:09am
How much does it cost? Around here, it's only 50 - 90 bucks a visit, even for up to 5,000 sq. ft. of living space.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:14am
I know. I know. Rationally it makes sense, but I am TOO CHEAP. I just can't do it. There's no reasoning with me. Trust me, I've tried.

Plus, think of all the Triple Mocha Lattes, drycleaning, and name brand clothing (you know, those luxuries WOHM always indulge in) I can by with $90 a week! (Tongue firmly in cheek.)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:15am
Lurking...Why wouldn't you? If you're both working at home it means you're WORKING...the only thing you're not doing anymore is commuting to and from the office.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:19am
I think most of my WOH friends don't have any help...too expensive.

We are lucky enough that our Nanny feels it it is part of her job to do light housekeeping. We never asked her to clean but its a Latino nanny thing...she would never want us to come home to a dirty house.

So she cleans for (the kitchen, the bathroom, sweeps and mops) while my DD takes her afternoon nap.

Ana
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:27am
My sister got addicted to sending her laundry out when she lived in Brooklyn. She was in a five floor walk-up and it was just too hard to lug all their clothes to the laundromat (I live in NYC and most people don't have washers and driers at home because the buildings can't handle it)

She used to get back all her clothes nicely folded and pressed in these large paper bags. And they deliver them to your door! She said that after you took into account how much money you spend at the laundromat, and the price of the detergent, etc. it wasn't THAT much more expensive.

And yet...I could never do it. It just seems SOOOO extravagant. Instead, I have to get up at 7:30 am on Saturday, drag my pregnant butt to the laundromat, and spend a couple of hours there. If I ever have a washer and drier at home I WILL NEVER complain about laundry! LOL

Ana
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:33am
I'm sorry, I'm not sure I understand your post.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:35am
we are a 2wohps household, and have never had house cleaning help. i would love it, but on the other hand, my dh doesnt want someone in our house, and in our things. i understand cleaning help doesnt actually get "into things", but he(and i tend to agree) like our complete privacy. two of my children have moved out, so we have one child left at home, and its amazing the mess he can make. my dh also is not very neat. his mother stayed up under him cleaning up after him constantly until the day we married. he has gotten worlds better than he was when we got married, but he still has his "slobby" tendancies that absolutely drive my up a wall. for instance, why does he have to open the mail all over the kitchen table, and have the torn envelopes, bills, return envelopes, and junk mail that came inside the bills all mixed together and then walk away and say, "i'll clean it up", and it happens *weeks* later if i just leave it alone????? why does he wear clothes all day long, and drop them on the floor in front of the hamper and say, they're not dirty. EXCUSE ME.....he just wore them for ten hours!!! what is the big deal to put them in the hamper? i do the wash.

wash is not a big issue for me, as i do it while i watch tv, and its just not an issue.

i also do little "3 minute" chores during commercials, such as dusting. i will jump up and dust a few things while watching tv. i do the vacuuming in broken up time frames, so as not to be vacuuming for an hour. i dont watch tv constantly, but these are just a few little things i do to try to keep the house clean.

my house is not spotless by far, but i do get a lot of compliments on it from visitors, so i must be doing something right. i will even wash a couple windows when i get home from work, and then i dont have to fool with it for a couple months.

i have become baseboard crazy. has anyone else? the baseboards drive me crazy, and it is nothing for me to grab a rag and the clorox clean up and go at it for twenty minutes and get a room done at a time. i cant stand to sit and look at the dirty baseboards.

my dh does all the mopping, and the carpet shampooing which is very nice, as he does a pristine job.

so, do we have help? no, but we dont mind. we seem to have it pretty much under control. we have never made it a big project, we just catch it all as we go along.

if it is a mess when we have visitors, i always say, to quote roseanne, "excuse the mess, but we live here".

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