Confessions of one sahm

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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm

I've been thinking about this *debate* lately, and I think that many of my

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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 10:59pm

Further on that thought, is

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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 11:00pm

None needed, you are a great mother.


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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 1:46am
Since crusadergal's statements were bookended by such phrases as "I don't think..." and "I wish...", thus rendering her statements as her personal opinions, the only proof she needs to show is that she actually posted it. Which...you know....posting it proves.

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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 1:47am

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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 3:05am

Pft! The child would understand the sacrifice his mother made, and it would warm his heart. I am just wondering how the mother who is giving up her child could make sure that the adoptive mother would never work.

BTW, in my family archive I have, among other things, the memoir of an ancestress who emigrated to the US around the turn of the previous century. She was quickly married to someone in the small immigration party, at her mother's insistence and for purely practical reasons. After giving birth to a son, she left the husband because he was a drunk and beat her up on a regular basis. She then describes that she could not get a "place," i.e. a job as a live-in housekeeper that allowed her to have her little boy with her. So for about 6 months she put him in a temporary orphanage. Apparently, this was a fairly common thing then and clearly catered to single and poor working mothers. When she found a better job where they did not mind the kid, she sprung him from the orphanage.




Edited 4/4/2009 3:17 am ET by rollmops2009
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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 8:16am
A mother should know or she shouldn't have children. Becoming a mother is not something one should leave to chance. If the mother finds her situation is not ideal, that is not the child's fault.
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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 8:22am
A father should be careful when choosing the mother of his children. A father should know or he shouldn't sire children. Becoming a father is not something one should leave to chance. If the father finds his situation is not ideal, that is not the child's fault.


Edited 4/4/2009 8:22 am ET by tryingtoquit
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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 8:33am

Yes, true.

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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 8:45am

Great! I think we have a starting point. We can both agree that potential mothers AND fathers needs to think before they procreate and that children are the innocents in the process. Can we also agree that every child should be a wanted child?




Edited 4/4/2009 8:46 am ET by tryingtoquit
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Sat, 04-04-2009 - 8:54am

Okay....I can somewhat agree with that notion that parents shouldn't leave having children to chance, planning needs to be done and etc....so what does that have to do with a sahm and a wohd?


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