Confessions of one sahm

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Confessions of one sahm
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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm

I've been thinking about this *debate* lately, and I think that many of my

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 12:56pm
Yeah, I am not going to tell my kids they can't be on the high school sports teams because they have to miss family dinners on the nights they have away games.
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:00pm
Our piano teacher lives a bit of a drive from our house, so I always used to stay during their lessons because they were only a half hour long each and by the time I would have gotten home, it would be almost time to turn around and go back -- a waste of time and money. It finally dawned on me that she lived in a beautiful area on the edge of the woods, and throughout most of the year now I take the dog, drop off the kids, walk the dog for the hour of the lessons, and meet the kids back at the car. I get to hear them practicing almost every night, and they are now both better piano players than I am, so it's really no advantage to me to be at the lessons. They play in public five or six times a year, so I get to enjoy that, too (and they are both finally at the stage where it is a real pleasure, and not just a parental pleasure, to hear them play!).
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:03pm

I am guessing that a child who hasn't learned despite being told about a dozen times is not an auditory learner either.

This reminds me of times when I have been around parents who have youngish children -- toddler age -- and you well hear the parent saying, in an increasingly exasperated tone, "Billy! Get off that swing! It's time to come home! Right now! I'm gonna count to three and you'd better be over here! One-two-- are you listening to me?"

Nah lady, he's not. Go stop the swing and get the kid already.

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:12pm
We had a foster child for awhile who had not had many opportunities in life and who was very limited in her abilities to think through challenging situations or do anything, really, that involved more than two or three steps. She was, and is, however, a very good student. It took her about a month before she would break a banana off the bunch and peel it herself. It took her six months or so of living with us before she would peel anything but a banana. One time we took her out to a restaurant and I looked over and she was crying because she had been thrown a roll (long story) and she wanted butter on it and none of us had thought to ask her if she wanted some butter and put the butter on for her. I had to teach her to say "please pass the butter" and force her (not there, but later at home) to handle a butter knife and learn to spread butter and make peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for herself. She had learned to equate being waited on with being loved, and her mother, despite her many other issues, was willing, even eager, to treat her like a baby despite the fact that she was twelve years old. It wasn't pretty.
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:26pm

Oh, that reminds me. Last night we were at an event where they showed a documentary about the Battle of Crete. Patrick Leigh Fermor, a legendary British operative on the island, was interviewed in the film. At one point, he organized and executed a plot to kidnap the German commander, a Genereal Kreipe. So, for weeks Fermor traveled trough the mountains with the general as his prisoner, guarded and accompanied by rotating bands of Cretan guerillas.

One particularly beautiful dawn high in the mountain, Fermor awoke to the sound of General Kreipe quietly reciting a snippet of a Horace ode. Fermor continued the ode, their eyes met and he commented that it was as if he and the German had once drunk from the same fountain and for a brief moment the war faded away.

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:32pm

i'm not sure.


i don't have a problem assisting my kid with

 

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:33pm

Oh for the days when, after the Battle of Sind, a British political cartoon could show the general holding up a trophy that said "peccavi"....and evidently the educated public understood it.

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:36pm
right.

 

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:37pm

Oh, I wouldn't be "judging" if I happened to overhear. Usually when we are out we are talking among ourselves, not looking over at the other table trying to second guess the other patrons. But if I were close enough to overhear, I would probably assume, though, that there was something amiss such as the child had a sprained thumb; and if it were clear that that were not the case, I would be polite enough to cover my amazement until we were in the car.

Seriously, don't your older kids go places without you? To spend the night with a friend, or on a girl scout campout or something? It was about the ages of 10-11 my kids started going to sleepaway camps and other places where they were kind of expected to be able to feed themselves.

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:39pm

why no clue....is this a game?

 

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