Confessions of one sahm

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Confessions of one sahm
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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm

I've been thinking about this *debate* lately, and I think that many of my

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:48pm

I'm not really sure what is unclear about my comments...but yes, please provide the number of

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:50pm
It has nothing to do with ridicule or criticism. The question is whether you think a child can feel happy (or angry or frustrated or embarrassed) if that child has never been taught the name of that particular emotion.
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:51pm

I am a loving parent, but not an overly protective one. If my kid is being bullied or teased, we'll talk about why. My kids are amazing. One had to wear an eye patch all through first grade. He got some teasing, but mostly handled it so that other kids were interested, but not particularly mean. One kid WAS mean, and my kid was more puzzled by it than upset -- as in, what's HIS problem? And that's the way they usually handle teasing or bullying, as far as I've been able to observe.

Kids DO tend to notice the odd or different child, and while I want my kids to own their oddities -- hey, I've got one who loves classical music and astronauts and is a self-admitted "nerd," which sometimes gets him teased, but he also loves baseball and fart jokes, and is a typical "boy" in other ways -- I don't want to make them purposely odd by being the last kid in the class to be able to handle sharp knives or be able to button their own coat, or whatever it is that kids will notice.

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:51pm

<<Are you speaking about me?>>


No, I clearly said "I might think", when I said I, I meant me.


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Yes, same for me, well not my dd but myself and my friends and family as well...but I'm glad that you agree that it's not really relevant if my boys were in dance or not, friends and family....agreed.


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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:53pm
OK, so your kid sometimes feels embarrassed. How do you know your kid has never felt what others might perceive as "mortified" but she has no word for it so she simply calls it "very embarrassed?"
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:56pm
Yeah, don't think that is why, but whatever you think ;)
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:57pm

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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:57pm
Nobody judged. Bordwithyou said that her kids would be embarrassed in the situation you described. My kid would be too.
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:57pm
Oh, I believe you :)
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Thu, 07-02-2009 - 4:58pm

one of my proudest "mommy moments" was when dd was in 6th grade. She was in the locker room after gym and one of the girls was saying mean, nasty things about one of the other girls (in fact, it happened to be a girl that my dd didn't like at all).

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