Confessions of one sahm
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Confessions of one sahm
| Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm |
I've been thinking about this *debate* lately, and I think that many of my
| Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm |
I've been thinking about this *debate* lately, and I think that many of my
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There are no early release days in middle school, just in the elementary school. School vacation she will continue going to camp and I will be home during Christmas break. Summer vacation she can still go to camp. I most likely, will take the 2 weeks before and after camp as I am doing this year as I get another week of vacation next year so I have plenty of time and all the time I take off from work is for my kids.
So your school has no early release days and the exact holiday schedule as your job? That's a bit hard to believe, but if you say so...
What about winter and spring vacations? You take that off too? What about the snow days or early release days?
Good luck with a lack of supervision for your middle schooler. Didn't you say she had adhd issues, too? (Nothing wrong with that, I've got a son with adhd too, but he is younger and I can't imagine leaving him unsupervised expecting his homework to be done.). I've also got one of the most mature, educationally focused, sensible, middle schooler on the planet. IME, I don't leave her alone for repeatable absences without supervision.
I know you may have to leave your kid alone due to lack of affordable services in your area for that age group. But it is a critical age, and the best kid can be tempted to do very bad things. It's worse now in the age of cell phones and the internet. My child knows I'm monitoring every cell and internet activity and it is still rather frightening what some of her friends post and send. We often have embarrassing talks about a friend's link or text.
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Also there are people who did chores as children but want people to wait on them as adults.
That being the case the lack of chores as children is not necessarily the cause of someone not doing chores as an adult.>>
I never said that in all instances, the cause of this type of behavior is from lack of responsibility/chores as kids. However, I DO know people who DO act like this as an adult. They have told me point blank that they never had to do these things as kids, that their mom did everything for them, etc.
To help MINIMIZE the possibility that my kids will ever feel this way as adults, I prefer to teach them as kids. Not to mention that I don't feel it is MY responsibility to clean up after them 100% of the time. If they are expected to do it at school and if I expect them to do it at other people's homes, then why can't I expect it at home?
nor up here either that I can see-- several of the teens at Liza's theater school (some of whom were in "Company" and 'songs for a New World" with me) turned 16 over the past year and there didn't seem to be a big party in the bunch
Kelly and I told Liza we hope we can make the following plan work
for her 13th birthdya -- NYC
for her 16th birthday - Hollywood
for her 18th birthday/hs graduation - London
that's our plan -- with Kelly's time share we should be able to make thelast few work reasonably well (she's a time share pro - bought this one for $130 on ebay - yearly maintenance is a few hundred -- it's a 'red week' unit in Orlando so it hast great trading power so if we plan right we should be able to go somewhere fun each year -- she's gone to Hawaii, Spain, Scotland, Florida and Arizona with her old timeshare -- great fun. but I digress...)
we just decided we'd rather do trips and experiences than pointless parties.
while we do have family dinners at least 4-5 nights out of the 7 -- often more -- for me the sweetest times come in other ways. Tonight we had a great raucous family dinner with Kelly followed by a hysterical scrabble game and then later Liza said "momma instead of me reading in bed or watching tv before i go to sleep can you come sit in my room with me while I"m in bed and we can talk some more?" We had the sweetest time together...
love. her. LOVE her.
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Is there something wrong with that? My sister went to Spain ALONE when she was 13. She was staying with family friends, who spoke English as a second language, but she did fly there and back alone. She also spent time with people who spoke no English at all. She had a great time.
I did the same thing, however, I was a little older. I was 20 when I did it. I lived in Italy and travelled all over Western Europe *alone* to countries where they spoke languages I didn't speak.
What do you consider dinnertime? In this day and age, I think dinnertime means different things to different people.
Ds' kindergarten graduation was at 6:30pm. For some people, that's dinnertime. Considering he had to be there at 6pm, which meant us leaving the house at 5:40pm, it didn't leave us much time for dinner. We had to eat very early b/c I didn't want the kids to eat until after they dressed. That meant we were eating dinner at 5pm. Dh doesn't get home that early so we had to eat w/o him.
Things like this happen every so often. Nearly all of my kids' school concerts start at 6:30, which means they have to be there by 6pm, so we have to leave about 5:45pm. That means we have to eat no later than 5pm in order to be ready in time. Dh doesn't get home by then so on those nights, he doesn't eat with us. No biggie - we eat together most nights so once in a while having to eat separately is not a problem.
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What is that supposed to mean? That because they are boys, they are stronger? I would never want to give my dds that kind of message.
While I'm sure there is occasionally a water bottle that is difficult to open, it doesn't happen that often in our home. My "skinny" 6y/o manages to open them all the time, and even my 4 y/o can do it too!
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THat's the key. In YOUR estimation -- which makes not one bit of difference around here, LOL!
Some of our sisterhood meetings were dinner meetings -- they were at 6:00 or 6:30. Dh's condo meetings always start at 6:00.
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