Confessions of one sahm

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Confessions of one sahm
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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm

I've been thinking about this *debate* lately, and I think that many of my

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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:11pm

I thought we were discussing the difficulties of opening water bottles? Of course anyone who is thirsty can use a faucet, that wasn't the issue. I was questioning why because they are boys, that would make a difference?

My kids don't drink from water bottles at home. We have a nifty water dispenser on our fridge from which they get filtered water to drink. My 4 y/o even is capable of getting herself a drink from that.

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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:14pm
We've been eating pretty late all summer. My kids have swim practice from 6-7:30 every night. They usually have a decent snack around 5pm to give them enough energy for practice but not too much to give them cramps. We then have a light dinner after we get home. I don't like eating that late but I do prefer to eat with dh so we usually grill something or have a salad when we all get home. One of us takes the kids to practice while the other stays home to have dinner ready when we get back.
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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:18pm

I would prefer to eat that early but since dh doesn't get home until at least 5:30, we can't eat that early b/c we prefer to eat together as a family. Occasionally, I will feed the kids something early (if we have sports or an activity during the dinner hours) then give them a late snack to eat at the table while dh and I eat together. That way we are all still at the table together which I think is important.

When I was a kid, we always ate at 5pm sharp but that was b/c my father was a federal employee and got home every day at 4:30. I don't know anyone who typically eats that early these days b/c most people I know just aren't all home that early. I wish we could eat that early *as a family* b/c I don't like eating a big dinner later than 6:30pm. But it happens frequently around here!

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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:20pm
I almost hate to admit that I really like it that neither boy is doing baseball this summer. Baseball games here are either at 5:30 or at 7:00 pm. One of them having a game at either time was never an issue. But when one had a game at 5:30 and the other at 7, I never quite knew WHAT to do about dinner. Luckily it didn't happen often, but it often resulted in tag-team parenting --- one of us eating early with one child and the other eating later with the other one. There are advantages to one on one time with a kid, but it gets ridiculously complicated.
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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:25pm
I suppose there are many kids who feel that way when they have alcoholic parents, but not all of them. I have two neighbors who are alcoholics that have kids and that hasn't seemed to stop them from constantly having friends over. Fortunately, one of them is now recovering and hopefully won't go back to drinking but he's only been sober about four weeks now.
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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:29pm

"steak not so much..you never know what mom might think. "

I am curious, what do you mean by that?

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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:30pm

My kids eat dinner at their friends' homes as well as have their friends here for dinner all the time, esp during the summer. Dd left at 3pm to go to her friend's house and she is spending the night so I assume they are going to feed her dinner! Ds is being picked up at 6pm to go to his best friend's house for a sleepover and they are having a cookout so I assume he'll be fed there too since they told me they were having a cookout tonight.

Sunday, ds' friend is coming here for a sleepover. He'll be arriving late afternoon so he'll eat with us, then he'll be here until nearly dinnertime the next day so he'll have both breakfast and lunch here too!

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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:30pm

I've followed most of this as a lurker but that statement irked me.
"Dinnertime is not what it used to be. There is no "family time" anymore."

What works for you doesn't work for everyone. I am a SAHM and my DH has an hour commute-maybe longer if traffic is bad. He likes his company and we like where we live so it is what it is.

We eat at 6:45 pm. This goes for weekends too even though DH is home on those days. During the week, DH gets home between 6:15 and 6:30. Sometimes DH misses dinner because he is out of town but 4 days a week we eat together. Why not the other 3 nights? Scouts is at 6:30, karate is at 6:30 (2x a week). DS eats at 5:15 those nights. Sometimes I eat with him or sometimes I visit with him while he eats. DH and I eat later. To say that we are missing out on family time? So I guess the hour after dinner that DS and DH and I go out an play catch or for a bike ride or we play board games after we get home from activities doesn't count? Family time only counts if we are eating?

Oh and I guess the mornings DH goes in late (but leaves at same time) so we can have a family breakfast doesn't count since it is not dinner? Since we homeschool this happens once week almost all year.

There are lots of different ways for a family to bond and talk about their day. It does not always have to be the evening meal. You're way isn't the only way. Rignt for you maybe but not for everyone. Heather

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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:30pm
My father, when he was only a little drunk, became more charming and solicitous than he was when he was sober. Then he got downright gregarious. Everyone was his friend. Somewhere between gregarious and sloppy it got embarrassing for the family. But mostly, my childhood friends remember my father as a very nice, almost courtly, person.
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Fri, 07-03-2009 - 4:32pm
It's like that where I live too.

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