Confessions of one sahm

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Registered: 01-09-2009
Confessions of one sahm
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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm

I've been thinking about this *debate* lately, and I think that many of my

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 4:47pm

lol!!-Enjoy the rest of your day in your office.

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 4:47pm

Then WHY the comment you made?


Also, what would someone renting be using as an estimate?

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 4:48pm

What is funny?

I am working today to prepare for the first day of the summer term tomorrow. I generally do enjoy working, thanks!

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 4:48pm

You also, have a nice evening-bawwahhhaaa!!!

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 4:49pm
I've been through many,
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 4:50pm
Again, you made the comment that "your house is your major investment." It has been pointed out that that is not always the case, and Amilla was just saying that you would be better off if your house were NOT your major investment. Most people would be better off in retirement if they had more than what your house is worth saved up.
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Registered: 03-26-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 4:53pm
Again, that all depends on where you live and the value of your home.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 4:56pm
In what way?
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 5:28pm

let me ask you this if i can..somebody is going through a stressful or trial period. s/he is approached with words like i don't know how you do it. i could never do that. or a,you make it look so easy...is that IYO flattering to hear?

It would depend on how well I knew the person--if I don't know them well, I would simply express sympathy for their difficulties. If it's someone I know better, I might tell them that I think they're handling a very difficult situation well, or if I thought I'd have trouble handling what they are handling, I might state it. I might not, tho. I mean, it's kind of hard to say because a situation like that isn't something for which a one-size-fits-all answer would ever be appropriate, so how I communicated to that person would be individual to the situation and the person.

When my friend was working 2 full time jobs after her dh was laid off, I would occasionally tell her that I admired how she was dealing with it, while simultaneously wishing I had the magic wand that would fix things so that her dh's cancer would heal, he'd get a great paying job, his former boss would get horrible boils in uncomfy places, and they'd win the lottery so she and he could go cruising for a year and not have to worry about anything but getting back to the ship on time.

I can't tell you if she felt flattered by my words, but I certainly didn't say them so that she WOULD feel flattered, but rather so that she knew I wanted only good things for her and regretted the fact that I couldn't give them to her myself. And I think, since she never took offense at my words (and she and I later went on a cruise after her dh passed), that she understood what I was trying to say.

Like I said, I don't think the fact that you have a fairly easy life, by any means, means you've never been through difficulties or trying times. I guess I just find it hard to understand that because you always seem to be a very "glass half full" person, rather than "glass half empty", yet you seem so determined to deny that you or anyone might have an easy life. And those two attitudes towards life don't seem, to me, to be mutually compatible.

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 5:29pm

My home is worth a lot comparatively speaking, and its value is 1/6 of what our financial advisor recommends for funding our retirement accounts if we retire at 62, 1/5 if we retire at 65. If we downsize on retirement, I guess we'd only have to save 4 times our home value for retirement.

How does the value of your home effect your retirement savings if you don't plan to sell?

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