Confessions of one sahm

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Registered: 01-09-2009
Confessions of one sahm
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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm

I've been thinking about this *debate* lately, and I think that many of my

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Ducky

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Registered: 08-25-2008
Sat, 04-04-2009 - 5:20pm

Most here know that, all things being equal, I think that working is the better option if for no other reason because the income mom brings to the table can improve the family's lifestyle and provide more financial stability.

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Registered: 08-25-2008
Sat, 04-04-2009 - 5:24pm

Don't hold your breath.

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Registered: 08-25-2008
Sat, 04-04-2009 - 5:42pm

Not the op but I just have to answer one charge.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sat, 04-04-2009 - 7:40pm

thank you. I have LOVED caring for and raising my children and probably have about 10 more years of that (before the youngest goes to college and assuming that Alyssa is still with us).

I'm living my ideal life (although I wish my ds would have taken after MY study skills and NOT his dad's, LOL!) and continuing to woh all at the same time.

eileen

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sat, 04-04-2009 - 7:42pm

but what you don't see is that it WAS ideal -- I got to woh AND raise my children.

And, while we didn't plan each of our children, we certainly didn't do anything to prevent when conception would occur.

eileen

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Registered: 03-31-2009
Sat, 04-04-2009 - 8:19pm

Children whose mothers worked long hours were found to have slightly lower scores on tests, which measures children's vocabulary and individual student achievement,


http://www.apa.org/releases/wrkmom.html


  • When mothers worked long hours, there were small differences in testing for vocabulary and individual student achievement, however, these differences disappeared over time.
  • Children whose mothers returned to work when they were three to four years old, instead of as infants, showed a higher rate of compliance with authority, however, this too disappeared over time and later showed no differences.

  • http://workingmothers.suite101.com/article.cfm/working_moms_need_not_feel_guilty



    You submitted articles instead of studies. There is nothing concerning self esteem in the articles you submitted.


    "For 35 years, researchers, have been comparing our kids, trying to find differences and this is it.

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 03-31-2009
    Sat, 04-04-2009 - 8:20pm
    Ideal for you, not for your child.
    iVillage Member
    Registered: 08-25-2008
    Sun, 04-05-2009 - 12:09am

    The articles refer to the data from studies.

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    Registered: 08-25-2008
    Sun, 04-05-2009 - 10:23am

    Here's an interesting article that compares maternal education levels to time spent with children


    http://www.voxeu.org/index.php?q=node/1358


    Of course we all realize that time spent with children isn't actually a measure of outcomes.

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    Registered: 11-08-2006
    Sun, 04-05-2009 - 11:56am

    how in the heck would you know that? Frankly, it was ideal for me, ideal for our family, therefore it was ideal for our children. Of course, my children are WELL past the dc/preschool stage. I have one graduating high school, one going into high school, sd going into middle school and a special needs dd who turned 15 this Feb.

    I'm still trying to figure out how they're any "less" (since that's what you're really implying) because I woh all these years. I think they're pretty cool people.

    eileen

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