Confessions of one sahm

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Confessions of one sahm
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Fri, 04-03-2009 - 1:58pm

I've been thinking about this *debate* lately, and I think that many of my

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Sun, 04-05-2009 - 7:35pm
This one gets my post-of-the-day award.
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Sun, 04-05-2009 - 8:21pm

I'm just getting a chance to answer this seriously. I came to motherhood fairly late in life and I never, ever thought I'd want to be a sah. I had a very good career on the fast track, access to quality childcare, a supportive, but traditional dh with a very helpful extended family.

That being said, I struggled for a while with balancing work and family. I had everything in place, but I was not completely happy with my woh initial choice. Several kids later, with a dh who became equal partner in time of parenting, we found our family balance, we both worked less and got off the fast track. It's what our family needed based on our unique dynamics; it is far from ideal, but the imperfect works for us as we'd rather go with the flow.

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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 6:49am

Well...that's wise -- I think there are people who embellish things about themselves on the internet -- their careers or their financial status or even theiir kids. I have often said that unfortunately if I was going to invent an internet persona for myself it would not be as a 40 pound overweight prematurely gray lesbian single mom with a weakness for ice cream -- I'd be far more glamorous I'm sure.

do I think my daughter is cool? of course. I'm her mom. but I also know she has some very real issues that I've shared here and elsewhere -- and the women who've gotten to know me here know that i've struggled with her anxiety issues and her rage issues and that I've probably blamed myself more than anything else -- but the good news is that b/c my daughter is so "cool" and b/c I love her more than life itself we're handling her issues together as a family and I'm getting her the help she needs t deal more effectively with the anxieties she has. Is she perfect? of COURSE Not.. FAR from it...but Im about as far from perfect as anyone so we're a good pair.

I've made mistakes - we ALL have as parents- I don't think there's one person here who can say "I've done 100% of every thing right as a mom " I don't think that woman exists -- but making mistakes, learning our way and moving forward is part of what makes us human and part of life...

ah i'm rambling - -i'm up early and thinking about how excited I'm going to be to see my girl again today for her week with mommy -- another performance of the Passion play today!

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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 1:13pm
IYO.

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
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Registered: 02-22-2007
Mon, 04-06-2009 - 1:14pm
Gravy is pretty good too...

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
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Registered: 02-22-2007
Mon, 04-06-2009 - 1:18pm
On the flip side why should anyone believe anything you write?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
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Registered: 02-22-2007
Mon, 04-06-2009 - 1:19pm

>> I might find what you believe to be a good kid is a spoiled, self centered child. <<

And I (or anyone) might find that what you believe to be a good kid is equally unpleasant to me/us.

What's the point?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?

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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
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Registered: 05-06-2007
Mon, 04-06-2009 - 1:51pm
Personally, I liked being single and a parent. It was hard, but it was fun just to be me and DD. Darn DF had to show up and be amazing though...

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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 1:53pm
Even though we struggle at times and even though we've had our bumps in the road -- I love my life with me and the girl when she's at my house (she's with her dad a weekat a time
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Mon, 04-06-2009 - 1:59pm

Exactly...DD is my little buddy. I feel weird when she visits her dad. And I also feel a little distant from the fetus I'm baking right now, because I'm afraid it will mess up what DD and I have. I'm sure that will change in time, though. :-)

(bracing for the GASPS at what a horrid mother I am for feeling that way. It's ok, I can take it. ;-P)

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