CTWOHM? CTWOHD? CTSAHM?
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CTWOHM? CTWOHD? CTSAHM?
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 6:21pm |
What is it about "CTWOHM" that rubs me the wrong way? Is it that we hardly ever hear about CTWOHD's? Is it that we don't much talk about CTSAHM's? Why don't they need their own title? Is a CTWOHM so different from a WOHM that she needs her own acronym? Is anyone else puzzled about this?

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It's not just a matter of being rich, it's also of matter of rank and seniority (neither of which I'm sure you care anything about).
I didn't realize being "satisfied" was such a low threshold in your mind.
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And "doing ok financially" is a high threshold in your mind?
"Satisfied" wouldn't be enough for me, certainly not when it comes to my kids, or even, believe it or not, my job. But my aspirations about my career have always had more to do with my interests, abilities and values than with the ambition to make a lot of money or to take over my boss's job.
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Hey -- I'm pretty sure I owe you a reply post, but your response to me got buried under about 1000 posts before I got back to this board. How does anyone keep up in this format???
Anyway, I agree with you here. None of the lawyers I know who have SAH or switched to PT are anywhere near destitute, nor is that a risk if their DH (or DW) were to leave them.
I think that there comes a point in the lives of some people (granted, fairly lucky people), where they can decide whether they want to work hard enough to be "rich" or if they are o.k. with comfortable. And "comfortable" in these circumstances is not too bad. I respect the decision of the people who opt for rich, but they don't need to lose sleep worrying about those of us who opt for comfortable.
I hate this format too--very hard to find posts. But the other board seems completely dead, so here I am....
Yes, this whole "destitute lawyer" scenario is a giant eyeroll for me. And the idea that most people are or should be aspiring to become wealthy, under PNJ's standards, is kind of silly. Very few people will ever make the kind of money she's talking about, whether they work their whole lives or not. It's fine with me if they want to, but you're right--they don't need to lose any sleep over the rest of us.
The other thing about being comfortable is that it's about lifestyle. Some people are just happy with a simpler lifestyle than others, and imo, that's not a bad thing.
I guess one of the "lightbulb" moments for me was when I realized that we made too much money to ever hope that our children could qualify for financial aid.
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