CTWOHM? CTWOHD? CTSAHM?

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CTWOHM? CTWOHD? CTSAHM?
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 6:21pm
What is it about "CTWOHM" that rubs me the wrong way? Is it that we hardly ever hear about CTWOHD's? Is it that we don't much talk about CTSAHM's? Why don't they need their own title? Is a CTWOHM so different from a WOHM that she needs her own acronym? Is anyone else puzzled about this?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 11:39am
Well, I don't see why any mom/lawyer couldn't take some time off or work pt and still be doing better than "ok" financially. I know only a few lawyers who have sah, but I know plenty who have worked pt, and they're not exactly destitute. Then again, being rich isn't a goal for most people.
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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 11:45am

It's not just a matter of being rich, it's also of matter of rank and seniority (neither of which I'm sure you care anything about).


I didn't realize being "satisfied" was such a low threshold in your mind.

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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 11:57am

And "doing ok financially" is a high threshold in your mind?

"Satisfied" wouldn't be enough for me, certainly not when it comes to my kids, or even, believe it or not, my job. But my aspirations about my career have always had more to do with my interests, abilities and values than with the ambition to make a lot of money or to take over my boss's job.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 1:57pm
Totally OT... but do you remember a friend of mine I told you about a couple of years ago? She has a daughter that was born about a week after Charles, and she left her husband, (and he wasn't an involved dad) so she was an essentially single mom, and had decided to go to law school? Well, I had lost track of her, but she sent me an email yesterday... she graduated law school this past spring, is studying for the bar, has a new husband and a new baby! I saw a picture of her at her law school graduation and the baby couldn't have been more than a month or two old in the pic. I am so proud of her. Can you imagine going through law school first as a single mom, then getting married and pregnant? (And giving birth apparently?!) Amazing!
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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 4:41pm
Beyond amazing!

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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 10:48pm

Hey -- I'm pretty sure I owe you a reply post, but your response to me got buried under about 1000 posts before I got back to this board. How does anyone keep up in this format???

Anyway, I agree with you here. None of the lawyers I know who have SAH or switched to PT are anywhere near destitute, nor is that a risk if their DH (or DW) were to leave them.

I think that there comes a point in the lives of some people (granted, fairly lucky people), where they can decide whether they want to work hard enough to be "rich" or if they are o.k. with comfortable. And "comfortable" in these circumstances is not too bad. I respect the decision of the people who opt for rich, but they don't need to lose sleep worrying about those of us who opt for comfortable.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 12:42pm

I hate this format too--very hard to find posts. But the other board seems completely dead, so here I am....

Yes, this whole "destitute lawyer" scenario is a giant eyeroll for me. And the idea that most people are or should be aspiring to become wealthy, under PNJ's standards, is kind of silly. Very few people will ever make the kind of money she's talking about, whether they work their whole lives or not. It's fine with me if they want to, but you're right--they don't need to lose any sleep over the rest of us.

The other thing about being comfortable is that it's about lifestyle. Some people are just happy with a simpler lifestyle than others, and imo, that's not a bad thing.

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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 12:51pm
Have you guys tried the "outline view" feature? It's a button near the top of the board. It's the only way I can keep track of posts when threads get really long.
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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 3:51pm

I guess one of the "lightbulb" moments for me was when I realized that we made too much money to ever hope that our children could qualify for financial aid.

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Sun, 01-29-2006 - 11:07am
Yes, thanks, but I still find it hard to find posts again when the thread gets long.

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