Curious Question???

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Curious Question???
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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 6:42pm
I am wondering how many working mothers had working mothers vs stay at home and how many stay at home moms had stay at home moms vs working moms.

Do you get along with your mother? What is the best thing about her and what would you change?

really just curious not trying to cause trouble ~ Courtney

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 6:50pm
Daughter of a housewife (I'm a housewife)

Yes, my mother and I are best friends, talking every day at least once. I love her and my father dearly, I adore them both. I see them every week, often more than once. I couldn't tell you just one "best" thing she has so many of them I just can't choose. The only thing I'd change about her is she needs a cell phone because you often have to chase her down wherever she is (we have that accomplished, she announced to me recently she is going to get a cell phone, especially after my husband just got his two wks ago).

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 6:54pm
My mom was a SAHM when I was in the household but did return to the workforce when my younger sister was in middle school. Since there are 14 years between my older and younger sister she was AH close to 30 years.

I was a SAHM when my kids were younger returning to the workforce when my DD3 went to full day school. I was home for 12 years and have been back in the workforce going on 8 years.

My mother is no longer with us but yes I did get along with her.

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 7:25pm
WM and dd of a WM. Wouldn't change a thing except that she were still alive.
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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 7:38pm
>>>I am wondering how many working mothers had working mothers vs stay at home and how many stay at home moms had stay at home moms vs working moms.

Do you get along with your mother? What is the best thing about her and what would you change?

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We don't have any kids yet, but we're planning on BOTH WAHFT before we have any. Currently DH WAHFT & I WOHFT.

My mother mostly was a SAHM & occasionally WOHPT & took classes.

My father always WOHFT.

DH's mother was a SAHM until the youngest of 4 was in K. Then she WOHFT & went to shool FT.

DH's father always WOHFT.

I get along with my mother in short intervals & if we don't talk politics or religion. ;)

I don't get along with my father.

DH gets along well with both mother & father (more father).


As to the changing...no one can change another person...only you can change you.



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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 7:46pm
My mom worked and/or went to school full time most of my life (I'm one of five kids) and my dad of course, always worked. I don't resent it, but I do still vividly remember times when I really needed some parental guidance and couldn't go to mom or dad because they weren't accessible or were too tired to deal with it. As an adult I understand better the dynamics of the situation, but as a child and especially as a teen I did turn to others for advice, attention and guidance, sometimes with good results, sometimes not.

I get along ok with my parents but now that they are retired (as of about 4 years ago) they want this warm, cozy, close relationship that didn't exist before and sometimes I'm not sure how to deal with that. I try to keep an open heart and mind.

I've always been a domestic, home-body sort and knew if I made the decision to have children I would be home with them. No one told me that's what I should do, I just always knew that's what I wanted, even after I got a college degree and had a career for a couple of years. Fortunately, it has worked out for us and I've found positive SAH role models and mentors through the years.



Good question, Courtney.

Cindy




Edited 6/15/2003 7:48:36 PM ET by cindytree


Edited 6/15/2003 7:57:17 PM ET by cindytree

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 8:03pm
You speak so lovingly of your parents and family throughout this message board and I am envious! lol! It is nice to see a true close-knit family.

Cindy

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 8:10pm
Oh thank you! We are very close, very loving family and I do put my parent's upon a pedestal with all the love I have overflowing for them. I'm so thankful I get to talk to them every day (often more than once) and I get to see them several times every week. I treasure them, their love, their parenting, their friendship and I don't take any of it for granted. I also have a Grandmother who I feel the same way about and see/talk to her just as often. Even my brother and I are close, there are only the two of us kids in the family.

It has been so nice to read your postings and hear from you. Nice to meet you. I just started participating since I can't really do a whole lot these days w/about getting ready to give birth, I've slowed down quite a bit. I've met some very nice people (you included) and for that I have enjoyed this experience.

I see a lot of things I agree with in your postings by the way!

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 9:29pm
My mom was both a SAHM and WOHM as the need arose.

We get along famously; she's one of my favorite people in the world. She's funny, smart, and kind and I wouldn't change a thing about her, except if I had a say she wouldn't have gotten breast cancer and had a masectomy two years ago.

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 9:46pm
My mom was a SAHM from the time she was pg with me until I was 23. She is now deceased, but we got along extremely well and were very close when she died (true for my whole life other than ages 16 - 21, LOL). I am a FT WOHM of two boys.

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 10:40pm
My mom was a SAHM for all 3 of us. She had lots of intersets and friends and committments too (my father was a pastor) but was was (is still today) there for us and would drop any outside committment to help her family.

I was a WOHM for 3 years and DH SAH. Last year we switched, so he could sccomplish some of his goals ( I already have my BS and masters) now he wants his masters). Now I am a SAHM to my DD(4) and baby EDD 7/4.

My mom and I are very close, we talk everyday, sometimes more than once. I talk to my dad a lot too. They live close and I see them 1 - 2X a week, along with my brother and his family and my sister. They are great role models for marrige and parenting. The only thing I would cahnge about my mom is she is soooooo giving I feel like she gets taken advantage of and I wish she would stand up for herself more - but she is who she is and she is happy, I guess.

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