Dad's work,mom's work

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Dad's work,mom's work
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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 12:28am

If your spouse has a desk job where he sits all day, but you run around chasing toddlers all day, who is more tired at the end of the day?

I am on my feet all day, whereas my DH sits at a desk most of the day. I run around as much as a waitress would.

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 3:46am
Ok, and?

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 6:45am
I don't think there's any way to objectively measure who is more tired. There are different kinds of tired-- physical and emotional or mental. Different people have different tolerances for these kinds of tiredness. Also, while your DH might sit at a desk all day (and does he really? I know at my "desk" job, I'm on my feet an awful lot on some days), some husbands have more physically demanding jobs. Also, some SAHMs are more active than others. I will say that taking care of small children is quite physically demanding. And taking care of children who can talk is mentally demanding. My DD talks pretty much constantly from the time she wakes up to the time she goes to bed.
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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 7:26am

There is no way to compare.

There are different kinds of tired. Physically tired and mentally tired. I manage a stock room for the most part my job is physical, moving boxes all day sometimes up and down a ladder. At the end of the day I am physically tired but I find it easier to recover from and less stressful than being mentally tired,

Although on some days my DH does a lot of physical work for the most part his job is mentally tiring. He can be as tired and more stressed than I am at the end of the day.

The one perk of being physically tired over mentally tired is that at the end of the day I have no problems sleeping, I fall asleep fairly quickly and am pretty much out for 7-8 hours. Those that are mentally tired can have problems with sleep because it can be hard to turn the mind off.

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 7:45am
I agree with the others, I do not think it is possible to compare. I also don't know what purpose it would serve. My attitude is that we should each do what we are capable of doing, and if we are too tired to do what needs to be done, we need to re-evaluate our life, hire a cleaning lady, get some childcare, cut back on work hours.
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Registered: 07-09-2010
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 9:05am

No way to compare it like the other ladies stated. Each day is its own. So by the end of the day who knows who is going to be exhausted, who is going to have more energy or how equal it may be on that day.


For myself, I feel like my dh is always the one after a long day at the office dealing with not only physicial but also emotional exhaustion.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 9:57am
It's impossible to say who is more tired, but then again, it's not a contest.











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Registered: 04-16-2010
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 10:49am

but then again, it's not a contest.


Exactly what I was thinking.

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 11:20am

As others have said, it's no contest. And if it's turned into one, there will be no winner; everyone loses.

Chris

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 1:53pm
I agree with the others, impossible to know. My dh flies on four airplanes every week, plus driving to and from the airports, plus working his desk job, and 1-2 days of WAH, and his part in running the kids around when he's home. I run around a lot, but there are times I sit, and I also have a chronic illness that makes me feel fatigued. At the end of the week when all is said and done, my fairness minded nature says we are equally tired.

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 4:23pm
Ok that's what I was thinking above but really didn't feel like elaborating on it last night. I think this poster wants some validation that her job is hard. And I think she wants to "win" maybe an argument with her dh or resentment that she runs around all day after kids & he comes home & does not help out around the house or with parenting. Ok she doesn't say that, but that's what I get from the post.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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