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Sun, 12-16-2007 - 11:21am

A couple marries young, early 20's, they are in agreement she will be a SAHM, in order for this to be possible he works 80-100 hours a week. They have a child, when child starts full time kindergarden, he asks her to get a job. Because it's taking too much of a toll on

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Registered: 08-27-2007
Sun, 12-16-2007 - 11:52am
I think that all arrangements can be reviewed/revised as the situation changes.

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Sun, 12-16-2007 - 11:59am
Wow.
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Sun, 12-16-2007 - 12:51pm

The average work week is 80 hours, isn't it?

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Sun, 12-16-2007 - 1:10pm

Things change.

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Sun, 12-16-2007 - 1:21pm

"The average work week is 80 hours, isn't it?"


Really? I know very, very few people who work 80 hours a week. Almost everyone I know works 35-55. If this guy is working 80-100 hour weeks, that would be Monday-Friday 16-20 hours per day, or seven days a week, 11-15 hours a day. That is average?


I do not think the guy is unreasonable AT ALL. I think he has done his part doing that for the years his child was small. If her choice to not work at all now is simple preference, not based on an agreement between them that it is somehow better for the family, I think it would be understandable for him to be upset. I find it much harder to understand her viewpoint. I realize that if this was what he wanted, and she is no longer employable in her previous field, that it may be easier said than done. But I would expect her to at least try.

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Registered: 12-10-2007
Sun, 12-16-2007 - 1:47pm

I think this woman is a spoiled brat with a sense of entitlement.


Working 80-100 hours a week can ruin someone's health. I'd be surprised if this poor man did not die young of a heart attack. I honestly

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Registered: 12-10-2007
Sun, 12-16-2007 - 1:51pm


No, far from it.

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Sun, 12-16-2007 - 2:43pm

I think it was a stupid agreement to begin with.


That said, agreements like this have to be fluid. They have to be adjusted according to the changing dynamics and situations of the family.

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Sun, 12-16-2007 - 2:44pm

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sun, 12-16-2007 - 3:14pm
If they're both dumb enough to come up with a cockamamie scheme like that, especially on a forever basis, then they deserve each other and all the resulting drama.

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