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|Fri, 06-06-2003 - 9:26pm|
what do you tell your children to do if someone in school is bullying them, ie: hitting them everyday, and will not leave them alone?
what do you tell your children to do if someone in school hits them, for reason or not.
i have had three children go through a pretty tough school system, and my boys especially have been in this position more times than i care to remember. my ds1 was very small(with a big mouth, i might add) until his senior year in high school. was picked on all the time. our ds2 is 15 1/2 and just finishing up his freshman year in high school. he has had some trouble but not much, as he is a lot bigger at this age than ds1 was, and i do think size has a lot to do with it.
we have always told the kids if they are being picked on, to go to an authority figure. sometimes this works,and sometimes it doesnt. if it doesnt, the rule for our children was, if someone hits you, knock hell out of them. i know this seems harsh, but i had to learn the hard way from the beginning. when my ds1 was a toddler, my friends little girl would haul off and belt him when i wasnt looking. i didnt want him to fight and used all the psychology i could think of. one day, my friend said, if you dont tell him to hit her back, shes not going to quit. sooooo, one day she hit him and he came to me crying, and i said, go hit her back. her eyes got as big as saucers!! LOL he hit her and she never bothered him again. this has been how its been all through school.
the kids worried they would have to "go to the office". i told them if someone hits you and you hit them back, and you go to the office, keep your mouth shut, go to the office and call me, or dad.
now i live in a city of over 100 schools, so we have a wide range of children, and i do know some of you (lauren) live in small towns. what is your rule?