Describe your philosophy

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Describe your philosophy
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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 9:10am

Which statements fit you best? Or if none, make your own (since so many of us don't like to be pigeon holed).

I believe that a mother should stay at home with the children at almost all costs.

I believe that a father should stay at home with the children at almost all costs.

I believe that a parent should stay at home with the children at almost all costs.

I believe that the standard is that a mother stay at home with the children until x age. I understand that not everyone can do this, and there are frequently many adequate othercare alternatives.

I believe that the standard is that a father stay at home with the children until x age. I understand that not everyone can do this, and there are frequently many adequate othercare alternatives.

I believe that the standard is that a parent stay at home with the children until x age. I understand that not everyone can do this, and there are frequently many adequate othercare alternatives.

I believe there is no overall ideal/standard and that each family needs to figure out which options work best for their particular circumstances.

I believe that the standard is for both parents to work; however, I understand that there are certain special circumstances where having a sahp is beneficial (eg. caring for a special needs child, spouse with erratic work hours).

I believe it is ideal for both parents to contribute financially to the family for almost every situation.

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Sun, 03-22-2009 - 11:28am

>>Perhaps the "workaholic" parent is maintaining involvement with their children the same way as the parent who is half a planet away - through internet and e-mail and phone. Maybe the "workaholic" parent has breakfast every morning with his/her children even if they don't see them in the evening.<<

The definition you are giving is NOT the definition of a workaholic parent. So, your point is lost. Actually, you have no point.

>>Things are not always as they appear to the outsider.<<

Well, if that were the case, there would be nothing to debate, at all. Let's just do away with all these debate boards. Have you tried contacting Ivillage about that?

>>No one said all parents are great, involved, healthy parents. But work status, again, doesn't really have anything to do with it. A good parent is a good parent regardless of their job.<<

Here enters the new twist to my comments. You're right, this has nothing to do with the job a person chooses so, it's totally pointless for you to mention it and I have to wonder what your intentions are in bringing it up.

Since you don't want to acknowledge my definition of what a workaholic is, then look it up for yourself, then come back here and debate what I actually said.

Oh, btw, it have nothing to do with appearance. I never stated I was thinking of a specific family and judging them. I do know ppl who have dealt with this disorder though. Workaholics are real with a real disability in balances one life. They are obsessed with one area of their life ... which is work. Are you really disagreeing with that? Oh no, that's right, you're just making up something debating yourself??




Edited 3/22/2009 11:29 am ET by mom_knitcrazy
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Sun, 03-22-2009 - 3:17pm
Huh?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2008
Sun, 03-22-2009 - 6:50pm

>>Huh?<<

Too much, if the post is over your head, maybe you shouldn't reply at all.

I'm not playing any games anymore, my post was clear. It's clear you have no idea what a workaholic is.




Edited 3/22/2009 6:53 pm ET by mom_knitcrazy
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Sun, 03-22-2009 - 8:06pm
I'm testing a theory.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2008
Sun, 03-22-2009 - 8:24pm
Interesting.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 7:02am
Yes, it is.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:27am

Yes, the study of human nature or behavior fascinates me. I especially like to study the mechanics of a clique and how the clique will respond to what is perceived as different from themselves.

I guess that is OT, but it is fascinating.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:29am
Interesting
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:40am
I thought so.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:46am
I especially like people who think that everyone is misconstruing their opinions, yet does the same to many other posters. And can't let anyone else be the last one to post.


Edited 3/23/2009 11:46 am ET by tryingtoquit

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