Describe your philosophy

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Describe your philosophy
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Fri, 03-20-2009 - 9:10am

Which statements fit you best? Or if none, make your own (since so many of us don't like to be pigeon holed).

I believe that a mother should stay at home with the children at almost all costs.

I believe that a father should stay at home with the children at almost all costs.

I believe that a parent should stay at home with the children at almost all costs.

I believe that the standard is that a mother stay at home with the children until x age. I understand that not everyone can do this, and there are frequently many adequate othercare alternatives.

I believe that the standard is that a father stay at home with the children until x age. I understand that not everyone can do this, and there are frequently many adequate othercare alternatives.

I believe that the standard is that a parent stay at home with the children until x age. I understand that not everyone can do this, and there are frequently many adequate othercare alternatives.

I believe there is no overall ideal/standard and that each family needs to figure out which options work best for their particular circumstances.

I believe that the standard is for both parents to work; however, I understand that there are certain special circumstances where having a sahp is beneficial (eg. caring for a special needs child, spouse with erratic work hours).

I believe it is ideal for both parents to contribute financially to the family for almost every situation.

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Registered: 03-06-2009
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:50am
and then there are those of us who like BEING different and find it funny to watch the heads of people explode when they realize we don't care that they think we're odd/different/ wrong/ foolish/misguided etc... further head explosion results when they realize we LIKE it this way.... it's quite amusing really
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:56am

Did I ever tell you about an acquaintance of DH's cousin? She married (like you) had a girl (like you) and discovered that she was gay (like you). Not only that, she became an extremely butch lesbian (black clothes, sharp short haircut, perhaps some leather). However, her daughter, loved loved loved pink and lace and frills and ballet. So, when daughter was around the age of 5, you would frequently see them walking down the street together hand in hand. One very butch mom with a 5 year old princess in a pink lacy very poofy tutu, pink lacy top and pink tights (don't know about any tiaras).

I love that image. Free to be me!!!!!!

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 11:57am
hmm, yes, and ppl who never respond to what the person is talking about and then they insist they know your thoughts.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 12:02pm
You know, sometimes, I just can't eat just one potato chip. I always have to have another.
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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 12:15pm
So, you can have more chips, but no one else?
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 12:17pm
Of course.
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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 12:31pm

hmm, let me see if I got this straight, it's annoying that someone supposedly has to have the last word, but you can eat as many chips as you like ... and they can too?

And whether or not a post is taken out of context, is up to the discretion of the person replying, not the person who wrote it? Even after the person clarifies, it's ok for someone else to decide what was in their head?

I think sometimes it's best to ignore the chips and grab a carrot stick.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:12pm
Huh? I thought we were talking about snacks.
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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:17pm

>>Huh? I thought we were talking about snacks.<<

Oh my, I didn't realize you were talking about chips here. ""I especially like people who think that everyone is misconstruing their opinions, yet does the same to many other posters. And can't let anyone else be the last one to post.""

Sorry, my bad.

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Registered: 12-31-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 1:22pm

Oh yes, but isn't the function of the clique to move forward and act as if they have the power of those that are different? Doesn't the clique usually resort to find blame in others who they view are different?

Yes, it really is fascinating, but as I said, a bit OT ... plus, all this talk about chips has made me hungry.

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