did you have it all planned out?

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did you have it all planned out?
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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 7:56am

So.......lots of people here who have lots of kids, lots who have SAH for awhile, WOH for awhile, SAH while the kids are preschool then WOH when they go to school, as well as people who WOH from the get go, and those who plan to SAH long term.

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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 9:53am

I always planned to be a sahm, not returning to work.

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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 9:59am

I always knew I wanted to stay home, Dh was okay with it. When I was 8 months pg with #1 DH got a transfer 2 hours away so I think even if I had planned on going back to work that wouldn't

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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 10:02am

Well, we had six years of infertility treatments to plan.

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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 10:04am
We had actually planned on me being a SAHM if we had kids, not because of any militant stance, but simply because I thought I'd really enjoy being home with the kids for awhile. Plus my job is a very competitive field and the whole time we were planning kids DH was working in the midwest and I was working on the west coast and we were having a hard time finding jobs together in the same area code. So it sorta seemed that one of us would have to give up the old career. I thought we'd have a bunch of kids and I'd stay home until the youngest was school age and then maybe do something new. We even lived off of one salary and totally banked the smaller one so we would know what we were getting into living off one salary. Having kids turned out to be harder than we thought, and by the time we finally did have a child, I was in a legal position (having accepted an advance on my salary) where it would have cost us a whole bunch of money for me to quit. So I didn't. I thought I'd work for awhile and then quit, but it kind of turned out that working and being the kind of Mom I wanted to be blended more easily than I'd ever anticipated. Now that the kids are bigger, I am glad I stayed in a field I love. I know I could have been happy staying home and now doing something else, because I am the kind of person who finds happiness in most circumstances -- but I think I am happiest this way.
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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 10:07am

My old boss from MD still emails me a few times a year to see how I'm doing and to jokingly ask if we have any plans to move back.

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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 10:36am
Both of my children were planned and we knew that I would have to go back to work both times so it was no surprise. My Working is purely for financial reasons.
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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 10:44am

oh darling I still don't have anything planned out! LOL


I actually always knew I'd keep working. it never entered my mind to stay home. But that's about as much planning as I've done ;-)

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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 10:45am

I don't base my standards of living on a second income either...finally something we have in common! LOL


 

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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 10:53am

I had always planned to work and not sah with kids. And I did with Joy. It was Erica who changed all that. I didn't go back to work until she was able to be in school which was 6th grade. They were 13/14, 11, and 7 at that time. With Dylan, I work. Not only because we need the 2nd income (I bring in half) but he doesn't need/require a sahp. Just the opposite--he needs the noise and activities of other kids around him. Something that he didn't/doesn't get at home. Same reason why we don't homeschool him but send him to public school.

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Fri, 02-22-2008 - 11:20am
I had always planned to always stay at home. My current job (personal trainer) started out with just me losing lots of weight and exercising. I became sort of a poster child at the gym, with loads of people coming to me for help/information, so I decided to get certified and hired on at the gym. It is normally a job that I do occasionally, but has gotten tremendously busy as of late as I started a program for teen girls that is taking off and I am now working way more than I intended.

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