Direct benefits of SAH to child?

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Direct benefits of SAH to child?
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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 4:20pm

In one of the other threads,

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 12:23am
That is your opinion. I do not think with my first dd that a scp would have taken care of her better than me. There is no way I would ever think that a dcp's care would ever be better than a mothers (unless the mother is abusive).
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Sat, 11-17-2007 - 12:36am
And that, of course, is your opinion.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 3:06am

I just can't believe that it's common to set a child's bedtime for any reason other than when they're tired.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 4:16am
Just to be clear, by activities I meant weekly piano lessons, track&field practice, dance classes etc, not year-end events like a recital. Where we live most parents are extremely involved in their children's homework. I choose not to be, for reasons of my own.
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Sat, 11-17-2007 - 4:29am

"I still think a mother caring for her child daily is going to be different that the quality of care of a dcp. I think dcp can provide good quality of care but not even close to be like mothercare,

Aside from abuse/neglect, I cannot see how a mother would not be providing the best care for their child."

So we are bacl to mothercare being best, again, and not just in your case.

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Sat, 11-17-2007 - 4:48am
It isn't always so simple. Dd never fell asleep right after the bedtime story, ever, so I set a bedtime and that bedtime was most definitely about putting some structure in MY day.
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Sat, 11-17-2007 - 4:57am

It isn't always so simple. Dd never fell asleep right after the bedtime story, ever, so I set a bedtime and that bedtime was most definitely about putting some structure in MY day.

That's a really difficult thing for parents of "easy sleepers" to grasp. I know it took me a long time of reading thousands of posts over a decade or more from parents who did NOT have easy sleepers before I really understood it. When my son was little and I was a Mom with only a few years' experience tho? I wouldn't have been able to understand the idea of a kid who really did NOT sleep well.

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Sat, 11-17-2007 - 5:31am
Oh, I know. Stumped me too, still does actually. Last week I had scenes with dd twice because I insisted that she leave my bedroom at midnight and go to her own.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 7:05am

I am not going over the same point over and over again. I do not think that sah is necessary for very infant/child. I think daycare can enhance and be more than adequate for most babies/toddlers. I do not think it comes close to the same as mothercare and that is why I sah those years. I think my children received benefits from me sah.

We are going to have to agree to disagree.

Edited 11/17/2007 7:07 am ET by debbiemom2girls




Edited 11/17/2007 7:11 am ET by debbiemom2girls
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Sat, 11-17-2007 - 7:06am
Yep. I agree with you here...lol

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