Direct benefits of SAH to child?

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Registered: 10-31-2005
Direct benefits of SAH to child?
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Wed, 11-14-2007 - 4:20pm

In one of the other threads,

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 8:54am

Yes. There are many forms. That is why I do not like statements of "Frustration causes child abuse" or to even imply that it is that simple. There ar emany facotrs not one.

Last week I saw a mother in JC Penny's tell her dd she looked like "a cow" in the outfit she was trying on b/c she "ate like a pig". She wasn't screaming, yelling or hitting but talk about some serious damage?? It was all I could do not tto say something to her. The girl was a young teen and all I could think of is "eating disorder".

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:08am

I'm happy to answer what I think all mothers' goals are, once you tell us what you think all nannies' goals are.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:11am
I don't think I "win," I think I live in a faster paced area.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:14am
I can relate in that I hadn't realized before starting to post online that everyone's idea of a great time does not include as many parties and social events as possible!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:18am
Shrug.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:20am

Well, I don't go, since my dd has never played a team sport, thankfully, lol. I have attended the annual dance or music recital, because that is what one does and because dd asked me to come. It was usually once or twice a year, and the last year with any events like that was 7th grade.

I did also accompany her to violin lessons for the 3 or 4 years that she played. Greek teachers will not be left alone with a kid for anything, so I had to come along. One of the teachers had a balcony where I would sit and read a book, while they played inside.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:21am

<<My kids are currently in two different schools, will be in three next year.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:25am

I know what you mean. I've spent 9 YEARS doing the religious school thing. One year it was Sat. & Sunday mornings AND Wed. afternoon. I'm now down to my LAST child in religious school.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:30am

Several sites I looked at listed parental frustration as the thing that sets off the abuse. Obviously that parent is not very good at coping with frustration and the reason for that can be any of various things, like substance abuse, other stresses in the family, a history of having been abused, mental illness etc. Several sites also mentioned that kids with special needs are at a higher risk of being abused, because they present more of a challenge to the coping skills of the parent.

I do not see how saying this is in any way insulting to anyone, but I am sorry if I upset you.

http://library.thinkquest.org/C0112203/causes.html

http://idahochildrenstrustfund.idaho.gov/prevention.asp

http://209.85.135.104/search?q=cache:VlL0JOHv5ggJ:www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1478X2.pdf+child+abuse+parents+frustration&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=5&client=safari

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 9:30am
I agree.

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