No one did. You are overreacting and inventing. She said that people are more likely to get frustrated with their own children than children that are not their own. And she said that is one of the reasons children are more likely to be abused by their own parents. Which is true. Someone who is prone to abuse a child is more likely to abuse their own child rather than one that is not their own. Probably because of the previously stated reason. I can tell this is a personal issue for you, but you are seriously taking what she said and running 60 miles with it.
So, you do not think children are ever abused by anyone other than their parents? Teachers never molest kids, etc? I had my hair pulled by a teacher when I was in 6th grade. I knew of teachers who were really cruel with their words.
No, I do not think daycare workers or teachers are exempt from abusing children.
Then what do you do for those of us with four kids? Lie prostrate before us? (insert wink here)
I think you have a reasonable position in this thread but I do think that you need to consider that when people have other competing interests that may prevent them from attending kids' activities and they choose the other activity over the kid one, life does go on. You may have never really gotten to that point and therefore have not experienced how missing a child's activity to go to one that is equally compelling can be liberating, to both parents and kids. This past spring all four of my children were involved in sports for the first time. As a result of scheduling issues, my third child (7) went to most of his baseball games without a parent. Another result of scheduling was that my oldest child (11) had to (gasp!) ride his bike a mile to the ballpark to attend practice unsupervised by either of his parents. Now, you may think that that poor little boy who didn't have a parent at the games was getting a raw deal (and maybe he was) but he didn't seem to mind. The two games in which both his parents and all his siblings attended were pretty awesome and he has a great memory of those.
But I can see that until you've been there, you can't see it. Does that make sense?
BTW, it is not a *personal* issue for me. Child abuse enrages me and when I see a child in the ER with signs of abuse I am not going to think "Oh, the mom must have been frustrated".
A coach yelling at his/her hcild is not child abuse. It is not the best parenting in my opinion but hardly child abuse (depending on what he is saying also).
My mom comes from an all Italian family. It is the loudest family in the world. Everyone is always yelling. They are not abusive.
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So, you do not think children are ever abused by anyone other than their parents? Teachers never molest kids, etc? I had my hair pulled by a teacher when I was in 6th grade. I knew of teachers who were really cruel with their words.
No, I do not think daycare workers or teachers are exempt from abusing children.
Then what do you do for those of us with four kids? Lie prostrate before us? (insert wink here)
I think you have a reasonable position in this thread but I do think that you need to consider that when people have other competing interests that may prevent them from attending kids' activities and they choose the other activity over the kid one, life does go on. You may have never really gotten to that point and therefore have not experienced how missing a child's activity to go to one that is equally compelling can be liberating, to both parents and kids. This past spring all four of my children were involved in sports for the first time. As a result of scheduling issues, my third child (7) went to most of his baseball games without a parent. Another result of scheduling was that my oldest child (11) had to (gasp!) ride his bike a mile to the ballpark to attend practice unsupervised by either of his parents. Now, you may think that that poor little boy who didn't have a parent at the games was getting a raw deal (and maybe he was) but he didn't seem to mind. The two games in which both his parents and all his siblings attended were pretty awesome and he has a great memory of those.
But I can see that until you've been there, you can't see it. Does that make sense?
Thanks for the advice (sarcasm).
BTW, it is not a *personal* issue for me. Child abuse enrages me and when I see a child in the ER with signs of abuse I am not going to think "Oh, the mom must have been frustrated".
Edited 11/20/2007 12:07 pm ET by debbiemom2girls
Of course not, but I think it's far more common for a parent to lose their cool with
So what?
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A coach yelling at his/her hcild is not child abuse. It is not the best parenting in my opinion but hardly child abuse (depending on what he is saying also).
My mom comes from an all Italian family. It is the loudest family in the world. Everyone is always yelling. They are not abusive.
Edited 11/20/2007 12:37 pm ET by debbiemom2girls
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