Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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But ITA w/you Misty--I'm PROUD of DH.
C
Interesting how you and several others consistently see this in terms of how badly the ex-wife automatically treats the ex-dh, but don't see anything AT ALL wrong with the ex-dh pushing away the ex-wife, as if he has no obligation to ensure the kids remain near her.
Quite telling.
That said, since she has made her life fair game for debate, the reasons she gave here for what she did are pretty pathetic. He cheated on her, so he deserves it, is the sum of what she originally posted. He knew if she cheated she would take the kids away, so he asked for it.
There was no mention of concern for the kids, of trying to find every way she could to keep the children near their father, or of anything else. Instead, she posted that by cheating on her, he basically invited her to take the kids away from him. But cheating on her is NOT cheating on them. From your post, it appears there is more to the story than what she posted. But if she doesn't post it, we can only go by what she has introduced into debate.
Her life, as she introduced it into this debate, is that by cheating, he knew she'd take the kids from him, and so she did.
I'm just surprised so many people disagree about the importance of fathers.
Who disagrees about the importance of fathers? I sure don't. My kids' fathere is extremely important in their lives. And although he's not *physically* with him everyday, he is with them in spirit. They, so far, have maintained a very strong bond with him, and if xh and I keep working at it like we are (and we have no reason not to), that bond will continue to remain strong.
I don't think you realize the emotional toll that betrayal, divorce, etc has on a woman. And how that emotional toll, if not resolved, can be detrimental to her children.
I'd rather my children have two good, involved parents, one close, one far .. than one close tood, involved parent and one close, univolved bad parent. Distance CAN be overcome; bad parenting? Not so much.
I am so much of a better mother to my kids now than I was a year ago, two
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
She moved the children 1000 miles away. She has made it very difficult for the father to see the children. Its certainly her fault. Take a look at your sentence. These are children and this is their father. Yet his father can only see children in terms of "opportunity" provided by the mother? The children are caught in the middle of parental divorce control games of the "You hurt me now watch me hurt you" nature.
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