Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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If he'd moved across the country to be with his new girlfriend and insisted she bring the kids there - if she wanted him in their lives - it would be about the same a her moving back home and insisting he move there if he wants the kids in his life.
You mean to tell me if you uproot your life for a man and have kids, but then get divorced, you wouldn't want to go back to the place where you have support?
Grandparents are family too you know. I find it pathetic that you would post some of the things you've posted - if you actually read any of what she's said you'd know how very off base you are. I haven't been here that long and I know she didn't do it to get back at anyone. Sheesh!
On the one hand you think the kids *need* the father to live in close proximity and blame Hollie for brutally moving the kids 1000 miles away.
On the other you say a child doesn't NEED a parent to spend all of their vacation with them.
A parent should spend SOME vacation time with their kids either if they live with the kids or do not (frankly I can't see taking a vacation without my son for a very very long time but that's just me).
CHOOSING to spend his time with his new woman rather than the kids is cheating them out of his time. Period. It was cheating the kids out of THAT MOMENT IN TIME - notice I didn't say EVERY vacation.
How would you do it if you were to divorce?
If I were to divorce, first priority would be maintaining stability in the kids' lives. Ideally, that would mean they get to stay in the same neighbourhood, same school, with as much of their lives intact as possible - and with regular access to both parents. You know, like most people I know who've done it - have done it. My worst case scenario - we'd have to move the kids to a new area of the general metro area and change schools etc to accomodate the changes in logistics and finances. If my children's father ends up 1000 miles away it won't be because I put that distance there.
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