Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Sorry, I got confused as to what she was agreeing with.
Felicia was furthering explaining to me why she feels a SAH is a "kept" woman.
Yes, I am sorry, I misunderstood what you were agreeing with.
You also have more then my husband.
What is up with you today as I am having a hard time believing that you would truely not be upset if you were to only see your children on a limited basis issued by someone other then yourself.
Misty
"Even without a job I consider myself to be a full and functioning human being."
How completely ridiculous that we get to the point where this needs to be stated. Should we start a thread about how SAHPs are actually sub-human?
Its funny you state that because being a SAHP I feel that I have the time and energy to be involved in way more then when I was a WOHM. I belong and volunteer in MANY organizations/causes and feel because I am a SAHM I have that opportunity because I am not taking the time away from my children...thus making me a productive, (self-sufficient-scratch that...if needed to be) contributing member of society.
I am not a "kept women" because I feel I have a choice to work or not!! NO ONE is keeping me if anything I am less of a "kept women" because I have the opportunity to do all that I do to better my community for my children. I am a less "kept" because I don't have a job to "keep" me so I am free to do alot more then I was able to.
Louise
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
I'm with suzymom....it SUCKS ROCKS WITH A HOOVER when your kid isn't sleeping in his bed in YOUR house every night. When my ex and I split and John spent the summers with him, I literaly counted the days until school started again. And my ex and his wife lived *maybe* a 10 minute drive from me. 15 minutes, tops. I hated every second he was gone.
When he graduated school and moved in with his dad and stepmom because they lived nearer his job, it was HORRIBLE. Again, I just HATED it.
When his dad and stepmom moved further out and he moved back in with me, it was so wonderful to me, and it's NOT like I see him any more now than I did before. Our work schedules are different and he's always out with his friends...and (announcement) former fiancee (they split up, story much too long for this, but stepparenting issues was the breaker). But I know he's here and that makes a huge difference.
Talk to us about all your testosterone when Petey and Joey are living with someone else.
(And, btw, my ex and I have discussed this very issue; he hates John living with me the same way I hate John living with him...and for the same reasons. We each know the other is a perfectly find living arrangement. We just wanted our son home.)
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