Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:49pm
That may be one definition, but it is not the only definition, and it is clear from the post I was answering and the hypothetical situation I was addressing which definition I was using.

Did you have a point?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:49pm
So, how much DID she ding your DH for?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:53pm
I do not agree.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:56pm
I'm saying that your risk of not being able to retire when you'd like to or when your ill health forces you to is greater if you're out of the workforce from age 20 to age 50, than if you'd been in the work force all along.

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:56pm
It has been abvolished in texas because it punished the exspouse. I *know* what it is about. I've done the research myself on this issue and taken the classes in law school and done the pro bono divorces. But since you don't know, I'm certainly not going to research your pouint for you. We'll just classify this as cocoa has no point.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:57pm
No, I don't have three children, but I certainly don't obsess over every nap and poop with ds#2 like I did with ds #1.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:59pm

Hang in there - I understood exactly what you meant and agree completely.


Luvthebabes' post, "no one loves their job that much," demonstrates a complete lack of understanding that working isn't just for the money.

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 1:01pm
No, but if both parties living togerth didn't earn enough, then why would both parties maintaining two households certainly earn enough? What you are suggesting is that dad become so impovefished that he can no longer live in order to keep mom from facing that? And why didn't these people bother to get life skills and earnings skills before getting amrried and having kids?

I know first hand that divorce can lead to poverty and the kids suffer. But your solution is to plunge dad into poverty as well. How does that solve anything?

If mom had finsihed her educationa nd worked before having kids so that she had marketable skills, and if mom had taken the effort to maintain her skills even while SAH, she wouldn't be in this problem.

But instead, you want her bad planning to be an excuse to transfer dad's income to her, so even after divorce he still supports her financially?

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 1:04pm
You do realize that CS in every state is different, and mom's earning capacity or actual earning shas NO bearing on CS in many states. For example, in TX, the NCP pays a percentage of his/her income based on how many kids there are. Whether the CP makes $0 or $100L per year has no impact on the CS award.

So paying alimony now to let mom get a higher paying job will NOT reduce the CS payments owed later in any way.

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 1:05pm
But that's not the universal way that CS works. It isn't even the most common way.

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