Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Besides which, if financial depenancy is what is KEEPING a couple together, that is a marriage I'd just rather not be in. You are welcome to it.
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So the divorce rate is like 50%. And if its up to you, you are going to be in the "staying married" 50% come hell or high water. There is another 1/2 and another 50% to deal with, and you really have NO control over that - yet you are desgining your life by pretending that 1/2 and that 50% doesn't exist.
I totally believe it is a personality type thing, not an amount of children or even age of children issue. If you are an obsessive, intense, or not so intense person that is how you are going to interact with your children regardless of work status, gender, age of the child or amount of the children in the home.
SUS
I think that there are times when a parent is ill and a parent needs rest at the same time a child needs outdoor playtime (or other stimulation). In that instance, it is ok for the parent to consider herself first and allow herself to heal and let her child watch tv for the day. It is a short term need (parent is ill) vs a long term need (mental stimulation). I don't think it's wrong of a parent to put their short term need ahead of their child's long term need for a few days as long as the child gets some mental stimulation at some point after the parent is well.
If a parent is in the middle of a necessary project and a child is hungry I think it's fine to have the child wait a little while for his food (I am assuming a child capable of waiting, not a baby or young toddler) I think it is find for the parent to finish the project prior to feeding the child. The parent needs to finish, the child needs to eat. I see no reason for the parent to jump and put the child's food on the table until after the project is finished. I am assuming the project will be finished in a reasonable amount of time.
Jenna
I'll admit I wouldn't take alimony because I saw what happened to my DH - he got "dinged" for a good amount (lost everything in his 1 year of marriage and has to pay part of his pension to her when he collects it someday - oh, and he had to carry her on health insurance until he or she remarried). It's not nasty, evil, or taboo to be remarried.
I realize that TOS only prevents linking to support baords from a debate board, but it is very bad form to bring up support board issues on a debate board, especially when they have absolutely no bearing on the conversation at hand.
Jenna
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