Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:42pm

Well lets just say "hurrah" for all us divorcees out there. We wouldn't want to date someone that shallow.


I'm glad not everyone thinks like you. Its wonderful being in love with, and loved by, a man that can see past things that happened before we met and can even realize that without that past, I wouldn't be the person I am today; the person he fell in love with.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:43pm
Oh, Jenna, don't trouble yourself, the "gardening" jab was most likely a dig at me. Some people just seem to have trouble grasping the concept that the worth of a human being can have nothing to do with their activities.
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:49pm
I have a neighbor who was a SAHM. He wanted his wife to go back to work when the kids where in school. She resisted for a while then unfortunately her DH became quite sick and was out of work due to the illnes for a while. Fortunately, she had stayed upto date in her field and was able to get a decent job fairly quickly.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:53pm
I suspect most kids would freak getting transfered around like that, to people they weren't used to spending days, let alone nights, with. One hand off would be plenty for a child, I'd think. I'd say the poor child was clearly distraught at being handed off twice in as many days. Jumping to a high-needs conclusion based on the situation you describe seems a little premature.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:56pm
Something gets frequently overlooked in these statistics. Saying 50% of marriages end in divorce is not the same thing as saying every couple who gets married for the FIRST TIME has a 50% chance of divorce. It is MORE likely that someone who is divorced will divorce again. People who have serial divorces throw the stats off.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:01pm
I am intense about my work, so my kids don't bear the brunt of my intensity.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:01pm

That's really not insulting TX if it is true.


Misty

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:11pm
To each their own.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:13pm

"...but at this point a quality dc environment is cost and location probhibitive to our situation."


So only the wealthy can afford to have a dual WOHP family?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:14pm
Yes.

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