Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

Be who you are and say what you feel because those  who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:16pm
It's a fact.

Thank you for saying so.

(I could get used to being on the same side as you, LOL!)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:18pm

"I don't see a SAHM as a "kept woman". I worked darned hard to help my dh get where he is today. "


So your reward is SAH?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:23pm

He needs you to help with his career to continue his success, or because he'd be overwhelmed with 4 small children that he doesn't have day to day primary responsibility for?


If I were you, I'd be serving him his favorite dinner on china plates every night and giving him as much sex as he wants.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:23pm
Oh, no, by all means, reference it. It's so much more edifying when you don't mask your contempt.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:27pm
I guess I am intense about the things I am passionate about, which would include my work and family. Or maybe I am not as intense as I think I am and we are talking about vastly different levels of intensity.

Confidence has nothing to do with intensity in my world. I am not intense to overcompensate for something.

SUS

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:27pm
Can't wait for the followup where she accuses you of being nasty to her because nothing like that could possibly be inferred from her post, and Felicia gives her big thumbs up on that.

Hugs.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:29pm
Mmmmm. I have bad form. Is that better or worse than that I make things up?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:30pm
Nope, I never said that - I said to OUR location and situation. I don't know what your situation is, in terms of work hours, need for care, availability of care....

SUS

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:31pm
But he is still managing to be a functionning human being ... not only in terms of keeping his sh*t together in order to continue to be able to support his children, but in terms of being able to move forward with his own life, independant of them, as well. This is the point.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:36pm
I was more intense/obsessed in parenting ds #1 because I was less familiar and less confident of my parenting.

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