Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:27pm
What game? As usual, you read what you want in what I post.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:29pm
And when there is no longer a marriage, there is no longer a joint decision. A joint decision made during a marriage is no more a life sentence than the marriage is.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:35pm
Is it impossible to believe that someone can be smart, funny, independent, resourceful, confident, comfortable in her own skin, and worldly and still choose to SAH?

What do you think he should do to make sure I stick around?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:35pm
He's no RD!!! He's my BIL!! LOL i only see him in his sweat pants and holy t-shirts!
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:39pm
My DH (who has been through a divorce) did not have kids, nor did he own property w/ his ex. Does this make him "acceptable"? If you were to divorce would you look to remarry someday?
Kerry with Campbell Elizabeth 11.03.06 and Benjamin Brady 12.10.03
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:43pm
And if the marriage ends through the decision of one party-- the party at fault is responsible for that decision, as well as joint decisions made during the marriage.
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:44pm
Allow you to continue to SAH.

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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:46pm

Yes, I would be more likely to consider it if he had no entanglements.


No way.

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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:49pm
I completely disagree. Dh went to law school when I was pg with ds1 and finished when ds2 was around a year old. He went to law school because he knew the days of being able to earn enough money as an internet consultant would come to an end (yes there were people who knew that) and that he would need another career to fall back on when that occurred.

All my kids are now reaping the benefits of dh being in a successful law practice. They are benefiting from dh needing to put school ahead of them for a while. They have all the advantages of being exposed to different experiences. And many of those experiences would be unaffordable had dh not put himself first for a few years. So dh was first for a while. Now all the kids get to benefit from his hard work for a lifetime. We think the sacrifice was worth it.

Jenna

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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 4:49pm

Ouch! I don't think SusieMom's DH allows her to stay home. The sense I get is that they have a strong partnership and both get benefits from the arrangement.


Allow always rubs me the wrong way. An adult doesn't allow another adult to do anything. My sister would always say that her DH would not allow her to visit or allow her to buy such or so. It gives me the shivers.


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Mallory (age 3)

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