Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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I still don't think you're getting where I"m coming from. Or maybe you do and we just fundamentally disagree. *shrug*
This last post of yours is about property distribution. Which is totally separate from spousal support, imo. Property distribution is about what the couple earned together; its about what belongs to THEM, regardless of who paid for it and the splitting of those assets upon dissolution of the marriage. Its about things already earned.
Spousal support is about future earnings, imo. When I see a justificatoin for SS, its because the wife's contribution during marriage (however that contribution was done, SAH or WOH) enabled the husband to have increased income IN THE FUTURE. The incremental increase in his income, that was attributable to the support of the wife, does not stop when the marriage ends. Her actions/support caused that increase in future income, and reduced HER future income. SS corrects that discrepancy. It says "since he will continue to benefit from the support she made in the past, she should continue to benefit as well, until that reduction of income potential caused by that support is reduced to an equitable level."
My xh is still reaping benefits of my support. Because of the sacrifices I made, his income is considerably higher than it could have been. While mine is considerably lower. If that increase in income attributable to my support were to stop when we divorced, then i'd have no reason to ask for SS. But it didn't. He continues to benefit from my past actions. And I, without SS, would continue to be damaged due to those past actions.
But according to you and some others ... that's perfectly equitable. Whatever.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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Yes it does. As does spending one of your 2 weeks of
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Jenna
Jenna
Now we are arguing about a poster which seems kinda silly but what the heck? We don't disagree often. I think Suzie was making the point that any change in status would make her a nervous wreck. I can understand that point of view. Heck, I can't stand that maid keeps pushing my chair out from the wall. I like it there and I hate any type of change.
We both know she would survive. She doesn't seem like the type of person that would go on welfare or fall into a huge depression and be unable to cope. She seems like she would feel sorry for herself, plot revenge (if he cheated on her) and pick her and her family up and go on.
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Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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