Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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We ARE equal. If he were to start trying to control my behavior unilaterally there would be a divorce regardless of the issue at hand.
You make the mistake that every woman who is AH needs her dh's permission to do so and that every many who has a SAHW wants her to work.
Jenna
Of course, the WOH wpouse also takes risks with this setup. He risks that he will become the lesser of day to day parents and have no chance to have custody or even share evenly in the physcial custody of the child. I know that for me, not having my child is a much greater loss than not having as much income. I am the longer hours spouse. If we divorce, I'll probably lose the kids, since dh does the money and after school routines. He has more actual hours with them. And that thought is terrifying. I really don't know how people who cannot see their kids every day still want to get up and go on with life.
But for our lives to work the wqay we've chosen, it's a risk I takel knowing full well the consequences. Women who don't care for their own careers know this risk as well.
Cheating is a sore point for me because my father cheated on my mother and they divorced. I felt like he cheated on his whole family. By being with another woman, he betrayed his whole family. He wasn't thinking about his children...he was trying to hurt my mother. His selfishness destroyed my family. He cheated on all of us.
Yeah, I have
&nbs
I didn't claim that you said it did, but Hollie clearly did.
And you didn't answer the question.
No, its about the consequencs of his actions and taking the responsibility for those.
He *knew* when he cheated that it would most likely end our marriage. He *knew* that I had no reason to be in AZ except for him. He *knew* I had no support there. He *knew* there was a good chance I would move back to OK if we divorced. Yet, he took that step anyway. He chose to take action and he knew the consequences of those actions would be my moving. And he also knew that due to the logistics of his job that he could not reasonably have primary physical custody. He *knew* the children would be better with me.
I didn't move to punish him. However, I also wasn't going to relieve him of the consequences of his actions simply to be nice to him.
He was already making decisions that were taking him away from his kids. He was already harming that relationship. That wasn't *my* doing, that was his.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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