Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Do you make enough money from day trading or other sources to contribute some portion of the mortgage, to pay for your food and clothes?
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You have some nerve.
Edited 5/3/2004 9:54 pm ET ET by cocoapop
I understand what you're trying to get at. Does a SAHM try to watch her figure, try to be cheerful on days she's got PMS, become open to the possibility of sex when she's exhausted because she knows she'll enjoy it once she gets into it? Yes, absolutely, because she is a WIFE. It has nothing to do with employment status.
Do you not READ my posts? I don't have an insistence of kids being with mom (except in my case, lol). My insistence in this subthread is that its not only about finances and fitness. There are many more factors.
Here, I'll repeat myself ... see if you can read it this time. <<I've known many a child that was better in the custody of the father. But that decision wasn't based on finances and fitness of parent alone.>>
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
You, OTOH, said above somewhere in this debate, that if either you or DH could no longer work, it would put an intense strain on your marriage, and you meant emotionally, not financially. That's inequity of an unhealthy and unforgiving kind. In fact, you even described dual wohps as 1 or 2 economic units or something. In my marriage of equals, if DH became unable to work, our bond would strengthen, and together we'd decide how to continue to put food on the table.
If anything, the sahm is more likely to be an equal and not dependent on the whim of her husband, because she sah as she choses. Anyone can work. For many reasons, not everyone can sah.
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