Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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BTW, I had gone back an edited my post (probably at the same time you were posting) to add your point.
And those wives most likely didn't move 1000 miles away from their family to support his career in the first place.
The point still holds that I didn't move as punishment to him. And the point still holds that he knew there was a very good chance that I would move if we divorced. I moved because he was the only reason I was in AZ. He knew that. He chose to take that risk. He now gets to live with those consequences.
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
I DO believe faduckeggs (or anyone else) when she says she would keep working no matter what $ she and/or her spouse had. That's not remotely unusual. I do believe people who would crumble if they did not have a job, or sneer at people who don't, have issues. By NO means do all people who work largely because they enjoy it meet that definition.
"Lawyers do not contribute to society. Nurses, drs, social workers, cops do." I disagree completely. IMO, anyone who lives an honest, decent life and is a compassionate person contributes to society, regardless of their job or lack thereof. Some people holding certain jobs almost never get credit but should - my mailman and "sanitation engineer" come to mind. It is an unfortunate stereotype that lawyers and some other professions (journalism comes to mind) don't contribute to society by means of their job. Of course many people contribute through other means, like - gasp! - providing excellent child care or doing volunteer work, or just by being a good friend and example to others.
I did NOT, NOT do any "investigative work" WRT faduckeggs, and I take her at her word when she says my (honest) belief was incorrect.
I'm sorry if it bothers you that I don't feel like discussing all the details of my personal life and the child in it on a board that has nothing to do with him or any transitional issues we've had. But I'll be sure to note your concern in case any new issues arise.
Is your self worth tied to it any more than mine is?
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Wow - I did all that just by pointing out that infidelity isn't automatically the end of a marriage?
I simply don't agree with your argument. Infidelity is a deal breaker in *my* marriage, but I know it isn't in everyone's. Kristie says her father's selfishness destroyed her family. Maybe it did. Or maybe it was his unhappiness. Who knows?
Hollie
http://attach.prospero.com/n/docs/docDownload.aspx?guid=7E117344-D332-46AD-A2B2-30B19FAEACCF&webtag=iv-pssahwoh
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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