Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:28am

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:35am
LOL, having lived most of my adult life in PA, I'm constrained to agree with you about its potholes and other, ah, quirks. ;-) And I currently live in NY, which is no doubt the Mother of All States (except Louisiana, perhaps) for legal and legislative jokes.
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Registered: 12-03-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:37am
I'm not a second wife. Good grief, where do you people come up with this stuff? Do I have to give a life hsitory here. I met dh when I was 19 and he was 23. We married when i was 22. Had ds#1 at 24. Ds#2 at 27. DD at 30. Graduated college at 21, maters at 23, law school at 26. Worked various jobs since I was 14, put only for pay starting when I went to clegge at 17. I've been a lawyer since I was 26.

Dh built airplanes for boeing after high school, so he didn't graduate college until he was 27. He graduated law school when he was 30. We both WOH fulltime, but since he has his own law practice, he sets his own schedule and comes and goes basically as he pleases. Thus, he does the morning "get ready for school" and afternoon pick up. We don't use day care. Rather, my MIL watches the younger two while dh works.

Neither dh nor I have been married before or have any other kids. We do help to raise a child who is not ours. He is 15, and I've known him since he was 4.

Does anyone out there want any more details of my life, for whatever their reasons may be?

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:39am
That's not how I view anyone without a job. That's how I'd view myself if I quit work the moment I married a rich man.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:46am
You may not have yet seen that I agree with Texigan and you on that point.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:49am

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:51am

I agree and is what I think as well.

Misty

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:52am
You're not making the assumption that anyone who doesn't agree with you that alimony is an insult must be receiving it, are you?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:58am
That was meant lightheartedly. As I was one of the "snow boot" advocates, LOL, I will certainly stipulate that weather-appropriate clothes are an absolute need, for children and adults alike.

Again on a light note, to me and my family (very upstate NY) DC metro is practically indistinguishable from the tropics, LOL. ;-) (And yes, I've spent time there in the winter.) We had 3 consecutive days of sunny 70+ weather here recently and all virtually all DS could do was complain about the heat!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:58am

I don't necessarily agree with that.

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