Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:30am

I don't think I was attacked. But there were comment directly related to MY choices that indicated I was being punitive. Comments that indicated that *I* took my kids away from their father, etc. And its just not true.


I didn't take the general thread of the debate personally, but I did when it became a "debate why hollie moved" thread.


Granted, I introduced some of those personal elements myself .. I should have known better.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:30am
:::snort:::: Yeah, that's TM and her dh...all calculators and ROI. NOT
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:30am
Me too.

 

Linda - wife, mother, grandmum                     &nb

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:31am
Cheating wasn't relevant to my moving. It was relevant to the demise of my marriage and the demise of my marriage was why I moved. Had we divorced without the cheating, I still most likely would have moved.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:41am

I think even your scenarios depend, on alot of things (new mate scenario).

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:44am

Not to lower the SAH, but payment for services rendered would be the primary care giver of the children and freeing up the spouse to pursue his/her career.


Which is something he is still receiving (although some might claim that the payment for allowing him the continued opportunity to better his career is him not sueing for custody.)

Misty

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:48am
Make that "smarty holey pants," LOL!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 10:08am
For the sake of both your marriages, I hope you don't mean that literally, bwahahaha!

Heck, for that matter why limit yourself to just when HE wants it? I've been known to chase my DH around the house for it, LOL! (For such a long legged guy he never seems to run all that fast. . . .) ;-)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 10:11am

To me, I feel that especially after high school, it wouldn't be wise to SAH.

Tonya
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 10:17am
I agree.
Tonya
Tonya

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