Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
I don't agree with this.
So it isn't fair to say dh and I were young, romantic and in love. We were pretty crusty and curmudgeonly and in the kind of love engineers have (which is probably a bit different than the love English majors studying Byron have.)
What gets me is that even though I was properly cautious about marriage, took my time to make sure I was marrying the right guy and all, apparently I am still a financial disaster waiting to happen and I have scores of WOH women out there feeling sorry for my naive little butt because some day I am going to PAY for all this.
If the children would be better off with Mom (and you're saying this by saying "get the kids back"), they should be with Mom from the start.
Why should it be that dad has to leave if he has the kids.
This may sound mean, but
Before I quit to sah, we considered several other possibilities, including dh quitting his job and working on his MBA while being the primary caregiver, or dh taking a less demanding job while I continued to work a reduced schedule. In the end, he didn't really want to do either of those things, and I did want to sah. But for those reasons, I do not feel at all like he "allows" me to sah. Nor do I feel "trapped" in any way. We're a team, and this is simply the means by which we have chosen to work toward our goal of raising a healthy, happy family.
I agree.
Or maybe...the ex-wife would think differently about alimony is he knew she had to continue doing all those things even after the divorce.
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