Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Registered: 10-07-2003
Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:22pm
Jeez, you're a condescending arrogant poster aren't you.. how about trying to recognize a JOKE when you see one, eh?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:24pm

You're right, both spouses have to agree on their own and each other's work statuses in order to stay married.


Maybe we deserve each other.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:26pm
I guess you didn't read the whole "half time" thing... I just don't agree with going to school or working 60-70-80 hrs a week when they have kids... I find it incredibly selfish, which is why we would never do it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:34pm
No, it's not hard to believe.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:40pm
If they do not agree, and there is a divorce, it's quite likely that the SAHW will have to begin to WOH.

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:42pm
>>I just don't agree with going to school or working 60-70-80 hrs a week when they have kids... I find it incredibly selfish, which is why we would never do it.<<

You don't agree with either parent doing this or just the mom?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:43pm
Is it better to be gone fewer hours a week, but for more years?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:49pm

Severance pay only lasts for a little while.

Tonya
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:49pm
Oh yeah, after being the SAHW of someone who makes a lot of money, you'll be happy with making $15K a year? Don't think so.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:50pm

I have had so much pressure to finish my degree and I am not ready yet. I want to concentrate on my children and finding our way not juggling my career, college and childcare. It can wait until they are in school. It doesn't have to be now.


Plus, I am wonderfully happy being underemployed. Devin allowed me to be underemployed while we were married :)

Kristi

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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