Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:53pm
In reality though, the soap operas often last longer than the fairy tales. I think the real issue ends up being the why behind the cheating. I think the serial meaningless cheating would be easier to handle than one extra marital love affair. One is about how a husband is spending his spare time, when he's not with the family. The other is about where a husband would rather be, when he is with the family. I think its the "desire to be with someone he loves more" even if he's never had sex with her, that would cause me to say "You know what...this is now unfixable".
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:53pm

Like I said.

Tonya
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 1:57pm
>>If anything, the sahm is more likely to be an equal and not dependent on the whim of her husband, because she sah as she choses.<<

So WOHMs are dependent on the "whims" of their DHs??? Interesting . . . I did not know that.

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 2:01pm

You know what, I realize that there's a difference between Laid Off and Terminated.

Tonya
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 2:10pm

*nodding agreement*


I was ready to forgive xh. But when he said the word "love" in a conversation about OW, that's when I said "its over."

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 2:12pm

You should know not to speak in generalities on this board.


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Registered: 12-12-2002
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 2:17pm
I don't think anyone here is talking about Permanent, Lifetime Alimony, although I think it could be appropriate in some cases.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 2:25pm
Being married does not entitle an adult woman to toss responsibility for her own decisions and the risks she takes. The husband and the wife are not taking the same risk here. And they are each individually responsible for their own decision. They are each investing the same ammount, into the same risky investment fund. But the man is investing risk capital, and the woman is investing her bread and butter. Its NOT the same thing. Another person, however married he is to you, cannot take YOUR risk for YOU, or be responsible for it.
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 2:29pm
Nah, not literally

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 2:46pm
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