Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Jenna
But you were not talking about a divorce, you were talking about what someone's spouse should do to ensure the marriage stayed intact. And I doubt that any marriage where one spouse ALLOWS or DISALLOWS behavior is one that will stay intact regardless of work status of the partners.
Jenna
You have to realize. You were - for want of a better word - lucky - you had an ex who was either so guilt ridden, or desperate to get out of an unhappy marriage as quickly as possible - that you were permitted (permitted - because while you spouse may not allow nor forbid you from doing anything - your EX certainly CAN (nice how that works isn't it)) to take off with the kids and some spousal support.
But lets do a for instance. This is it. Suppose your husband was more desperate to get out of an unhappy marriage, than he was actually guilt ridden. But suppose he didn't screw up. Thats still an unhappy marriage. Unhappy marriages usually have two sides to them...and other men or other women can appear on the scene on other side. Lets say, it was YOU who tripped over someone who let you "escape" from that unhappy marriage. NOW WHAT? Is your ex still going to let you take the kids and hand over any cash whatsoever -whether he is the one petitionning for divorce - or NOT? Yet there you are, every bit the single Mom by divorce who'd risked her income to allow her husband to increase his. NOW WHAT? The risk isn't really the event of "the divorce". The risk is really the event of "the unhappy marriage". Once that happens...the rules don't go according to what made sense when the marriage was good.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Jenna
We have been married for 16 years. Over those 16 years we have had times with extra money and we have had lean times. I can say the years with extra money have been more fun, but we were very happy with our marriage when we were making less money and if we had to live on less again we would. I think it's more than a bit insulting to say to a person that they better be nice to their spouse so their spouse will keep allowing them to live their current lifestyle. It makes their life sound far to much like prostitution to me.
Jenna
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I spent a large part of the year a couple years ago negotiating on behalf of a corporate client with its creditors and vendors to keep it out of bankruptcy. They managed to avoid having to lay off some 350 people. My efforts helped substantially in that regard, so I do see how the work I do is of value to others than myself. I could give you oodles of numbers.
I don't presume to speak for others in what they see of value or what they choose to do.
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