Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Gotta keep things fresh you know.
Jenna
If I wanted to be AH and felt strongly about it, I would bend over backwards to make DH happy so he'd let me continue to SAH.
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I can understand that you have a wonderful husband, so do I.
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Jenna
Yes I do.
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And it seems to me that if you have a marriage that's based on love, respect, and trust that one person DOESN'T have the unilateral power to change things. But BOTH partners have the ability to address issues, including whether the other partner should work. Both partners have to agree to what the roles of each partner will be. If they do not agree then the marriage will dissolve.
A marriage cannot be based on an imbalance of power and still stand. It goes back to the famous quote by Abraham Lincoln "A house divided against itself cannot stand." This is as true for families as it was for our country. The partners need to agree NOT ALLOW one another to do or not do things. Sometimes a partner will agree to things that are not their first choice. When people start unilaterally changing their spouse's life the marriage is unlikely to stand.
Jenna
Could you please define "even nicer"?
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
"A marriage cannot be based on an imbalance of power and still stand."
But every marriage is a power struggle.
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