Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:35pm

Part of the "pleasure" of getting a Divorce is independence, isn't it?

 

 

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:36pm

Exactly!

Tonya
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:37pm

Sure, meaning nicer than usual.

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:44pm
No. I don't think the desire to be nice to your spouse should be based on anything except the desire to make him happy.

Jenna

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:46pm
Struggles over individual issues do not necessarily make an imabalance of power.

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:47pm
Then you have a marriage that is in trouble. I suspect a marriage like that would find trouble no matter what the work status of the spouses.

Jenna

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:48pm
Huh...I guess I would think that in a healthy marriage, spouses would always be like that with each other.

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 3:56pm
The original post was about alimony being punitive to the working spouse. My point is that it is not always punitive. In many cases a spouse is really instrumental in getting a business up and running and helping the other acheive success. In those cases the non working spouse should certainly be entitled to something in the event of a divorce.

I don't think dh and I are all that unique.

Jenna

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 4:02pm
But I didn't, and wouldn't, find someone else to let me out of an unhappy situation.

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 4:03pm
Exactly.
Tonya

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