Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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It would be nice, however, if you realized that many families do not have the option to have one parent work a 40 hour week and have the other SAH. That many people need to work longer hours in order to maintain their careers, which in turn, put food on the table, pay the bills, clothe the kids, etc. That many people (gasp) ENJOY their careers or college courses and spending time at their jobs/school make them a richer, more fulfilled person and therefore able to be a better parent. It would be nice if you realized that this wasn't a "selfish" act on the parent's part.
Forgive me b/c I'm sure you've said before, but what is it that you and/or your DH do again? Did you both get all your schooling out of the way before you had children and choose a career path that was limited to 40/hour workweeks?
I know lots of families one SAHP.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
You can enroll in a college fulltime or have a job that requires you to work more than 40 hours/week and still see your children. It isn't an "either or" thing as you're making it out to be. So no, the answer isn't *obvious* to me.
>>I just don't agree with going to *school* or working 60-70-80 hrs a week when they have kids... I find it incredibly selfish, which is why we would never do it.<< (my emphasis)
However, people in my field, or the medical field, or in many white collar professions cannot. So I guess according to you these people should either not have children or should pursue these occupations after their kids are out of the house b/c otherwise they're being selfish?
>>As to "not supposed to say anything" well, IRL, I couldn't care any less what other people do, but this IS a debate board ya know, so I'm going to go ahead and have my opinion.<<
I didn't mean you *couldn't* say anything . . . my comment was in response to your rather flippant: "So I'm supposed to say "I wouldn't choose it for my family because... I don't feel like it"? Like I said, you're not *supposed* to say anything. Just open your mind a bit to the fact that there are many people who are wonderful, loving parents who work 60 hour workweeks or who attend medical school.
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