Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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You can enroll in a *medical school* fulltime or have a job that requires you to work *60-70-80 hours a week* and still see your children. It isn't an "either or" thing as you're making it out to be. So no, the answer isn't *obvious* to me.
No, we never were at punishment for his bad behavior. So we can't be back to it.
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Thank you! <<they worked it out like big boys and girls with the best interest of the kids in mind.>.
I've been quite proud of how I conducted myself during this whole mess. I got out of line a few times, after all, I'm human. But we both acted civilly and responsiblity and maturely. And the end result IS what is best for the kids. If we both didn't think that, we both wouldn't have signed the papers.
Hollie
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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Jenna
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Many medical residents work very odd hours, so it's likely they could be at home while their kids were awake. In the legal profession, it's common to take work home with you and do it after kids are asleep.
You CAN work 60-80 hours a week and still spend time with your children. No, it's not as much as if you worked less than 40 or you didn't work at all. But it IS possible. Why are you so adverse to seeing that?
Because I don't see it as black and white as you do. Because I don't think that having a child in daycare so his parent(s) can work is selfish. Because I don't think following your dream/goal of being a doctor, lawyer, what have you, is selfish. Because I think you can be a good parent and still work 60-80 hours a week.
It's easy for you to say that there are a "plethora of other decisions that could be made instead that would get you to virtually the same place" when you have no idea what it is like to work in a field that requires long workweeks.
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