Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?

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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.

I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.

The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?

Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:37pm
Are you saying that you hold back niceness because you WOH?

I have been both SAH and WOH and it has had no effect on how nice I am to my DH?

I may have done more household chores when I was AH but that had nothing to do with being nice. It just make sense for the person with more time in the house to do more of the chores that need to be done.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:45pm
Why would her work status have anything to do with that?

I think that most spouses would be especially nice to a spouse returning from a grueling business trip no matter what their work staus.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:53pm

"I think that any adult should be able to be happy with their career or be a happy fulfilled person without working that many hours."


But neither you or your DH have a passionate interest in a career that routinely requires 60 hours a week.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 8:59pm
I see my kids about 4 hours a day on weekdays (a lot more today :) ).

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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:01pm
Sometimes the amount you work has nothing to do with putting food on the table and everything to do with fulfilling your professional responsibilities. Not everyone gets paid by the hour.

As a professional there are things you MUST do that can require you to be working more than the standard 40 hours a week. If you don't fulfil your responsibilites you will lose your job and possibly your ability to provide for your family at all.

Jenna

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:25pm
Did you change the subject? Because I could have sworn we were talking about spousal support.
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:28pm
Why are you posting this to me? I'm not the one claiming anyone should be getting reimbursed for anything. That would be the argument for alimony. I'm not for alimony.
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:29pm
Not necessarily. Childcare is not the only benefit of SAH, and not a benefit at all of underemployment.
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Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:31pm

My dh does work 60 -/+ hours a week depending on the season.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:34pm

I think you are reading way too much into posts. I know I never implied any of those things, yet you've certainly been quick to take offense at my posts.

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