Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
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Divorce rulings on SAHM's alimony?
| Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:29pm |
I have seen this many times, and I am wondering what your guys' opinion on this. Of course with divorce rates so high we find couples with children in court all the time finding out what is entitled to mothers for alimony. The argument is, should SAHM's receive more alimony then WOHM's? This meaning SAHM's who have through the whole marriage stayed at home with the children while the fathers successeds in their careers. This also meaning if they are going to pursue a career after the fact is their income be significant enough compared to the EX since they have been out of the work force for years and has not gained experience in what ever career the would have pursued.
I personally know someone who went through the exsact same thing and had a hard time finding a job(with income compareable) after the divorse since she hadn't worked for 25yrs.
The question also arise, does the SAHM contribute to the Fathers success because they choose to stay home therefore they should receive a cut now that they are divorced (the same as many would if they were still married)?
Thoughts? Please state weather you are a SAHM or WOHM when you place your comments

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If a spouse's WOH enabled a SAHP to SAH, wouldn't the SAHP be especially nice?
The point I guess I'm missing is that apparently in the overwhelming majority of marriages with a SAHP, the WOHP not only agrees to the arrangement but fully supports it and thinks the SAHP has just as tough a row to hoe as the WOHP.
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"(I don't think that's what she means.) "
Ok, can you or she tell me what she means?
"...something lacking or obsessive or immature or subservient or shiftless about anyone who isn't interested in pursuing a job when she has small kids and who enjoys and values time spent with and taking care of her family more than anything else."
No. I am absolutely surprised though at the lack of gratitude on the part of SAHMs that the WOHPs' work is what enables them the luxury of not pursuing paid employment, as I mentioned earlier in one of my posts this morning.
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I've seen this way of thinking among other woman, and I just don't understand why they waste their energy and put up a fight about it. If my DH were at a biz conf., out playing golf, or at the local pub with his friends, I'd encourage it, especially if it's just once in a while. I can handle the children on the occasional night like that. DH comes home with stories about everyone's problems, lives, marriages, kids and tells me the latest gossip which I like. Or he just has some alone time which is healthy for him and for a marriage.
Won't there be times when you want to go out with friends, your family or co-workers and DH will have to take care of the boys on his own, probably while they're awake? It will even out in the end.
1) Assuming you didn't call, what then?
2) I'm confused - did you mean why it is an imposition to come home in the middle of the night, instead of at bedtime? If so, it's because I'm always asleep at 2 am and rarely at 10 pm and it's rude to wake me up.
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